For those struggling with showing emotion...

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Heh, nah. And in this case it's not exactly about romance. I just need to overcome that area of social anxiety better than I have, so I'm better able to express emotions verbally, more often. I have absolutely no problem expressing emotions in text, none whatsoever, but verbally in person is an entirely different ball game - I tend to freeze/chicken out & not say what's on my mind, even if I'm not exactly wanting to say something romantic, if it's emotional in nature I just find it difficult to get out in words even after thinking carefully about what I'd like to say. On the bright side, thanks to being able to communicate these things via text, I've said these things many times over and they're aware of how I feel even if I very seldom-to-almost-never say it in person. Plus this person knows full well that when I say "Thank You," it's more like a picture & worth 1000 words, so that's all good. In time, with practice, I'll improve my verbalizing emotions skills.

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The best way to convey those things for me would be some touchy feelyness. Cuddling, shoulderrubs, backscratches, playful handholding, gentle kisses on the neck, etc.

There's always just telling them to thier face how you feel if your willing to put yourself into that vulnerable position. I did that recently with a very enchanting Gemini and it lead to some ambiguity from her end and insecurity on mine.

I need to learn to not over share, not show too much interest, not hyper focus on them, not dish out advice, not be overly excited around them, not to be basically myself, while everyone tells us we should be ourselves.

goldfish, what if she asked you outright? If you love her? What would you do?

Heh, yeah. I am, & he is, but my love for him sorta isn't. My crush on him definitely is, which he's well aware of, but my love for him is separate & far greater. It's not the same, but it's comparable to the love I have for my other best friend and his wife, or for their first born - my youngest God daughter, or her baby brother. It's.. complicated. We're both very into each other as friends, which is awesome. I still have a crush on him, which he's aware of, but I'm not exactly his type - which is OK. And as I've told him, I may always have a crush on him, but I know I'll always love him for the friend he is to me. It'd just feel liberating to be able to verbalize some of these things some of the time vs. only being able to write them. He knows full well why I thank him when I do, and what it means beyond the surface definition of the phrase, but I'd still like to become more open with my emotional vocabulary - so - I will.

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It was his birthday today. Got a chance to hang out for an hour or so tonight when he drove another friend of his home. Nice night, nice drive, great music etc. When he dropped her off she gave him a hug and said "I love you," to him before heading inside. I hadn't really thought much of saying something like that until then, thought about it momentarily, then put it out of my mind. We drove back and I gave him his birthday card & present. Then I gave him a hug (as per usual, with him a hug is 100x more common than a handshake in terms of frequency, and I like that about him.) and told him, "I love you, buddy." It wasn't forced and I wasn't nervous, I just said it and it felt good. f**k you, AS. I win. It'll be nice if this is the beginning of being able to verbally express emotions a little more freely and naturally. Yeah yeah, I know.. pretty gay. He wouldn't be my favourite homo if it wasn't!

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No for supporting trump. Because doing so is deplorable.

I know of people who don't explicitly state certain things (like "thank you" or "goodbye") because, they insist, "It's IMPLIED!" It appears to be the same with emotions with them.

ooops accidental double post.