Deal-breakers for men?

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06 Apr 2013, 9:36 pm

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... So if you met someone,liked them, and later they told you they were being treated for a mental illness you would dump them like a hot potato?

Not only that, I'd disavow any knowledge of their identity.

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All I can say is that is cold.

It's better than getting blamed for their condition, and for being held accountable for their actions. It also beats waking up tied to the bed with her holding a knife to your favorite private parts because the voices in her head told her that you were going to be the father of the anti-Christ. Lucky thing that the ropes were not strong enough to hold me.

Why would you be held accountable for their actions or condition?You didn't cause it.

Tell that to my ex-inlaws.

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More mentally ill people are the victims of abuse than the abuser.

Which is what they would say just before accusing me of being her abuser.

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We could swap stories,my ex,not schizophrenic or bi-polar got me by the hair and beat my head into the floor,plus punched me in the jaw,the arm,etc,etc......

Then you know exactly what I'm posting about.

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How nice to perpetuate the stigma that all mentally ill people are dangerous,the media does a fine job of that.it's just another form of prejudice.

You think I'm prejudiced against schizophrenics - I call it preventive self-defense.

So just what did you call it when you divorced your schizophrenic ex-husband - "tough love"?

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06 Apr 2013, 9:47 pm

^^^^^^^^^He was not schizophrenic,you misread what I posted.He was just an ass.
And your in laws were also asses and uneducated about mental illness.
Yes, some schizophrenics can be dangerous, but I'd wager more NTs are,at least that's been my experience.They can be first class predators.

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06 Apr 2013, 9:51 pm

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^^^^^^^^^He was not schizophrenic,you misread what I posted.He was just an ass. And your in laws were also asses and uneducated about mental illness. Yes, some schizophrenics can be dangerous, but I'd wager more NTs are,at least that's been my experience.They can be first class predators.

Yes, you're right, and now I'm being an ass. I apologize.

But that is the crucial difference - a sane person can stop behaving like an ass, but a schizophrenic can only get worse.

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06 Apr 2013, 10:17 pm

^^^^^^Apology accepted.
Some people do respond well to medication, but if a person is dangerous than it is a good idea to put distance between them and yourself.
But I'm not going to lie to someone about my bi- polar disorder,if it's a deal breaker than I'll just assume I wouldn't have liked them anyway.It's not something you can keep hidden forever.But I hate to feel like "damaged"goods.

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06 Apr 2013, 10:27 pm

It can be a bit of a dealbreaker for me if a girl is constantly unleashing noxious farts around me.

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06 Apr 2013, 10:43 pm

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It can be a bit of a dealbreaker for me if a girl is constantly unleashing noxious farts around me.

The fart thing is the oldest trick in the book. When a woman eats beans at home, she's trying to get you to take her out for steak. Yes, the choice the is giving you boils down to "steak or stink." You can outsmart her by putting an exhaust fan in the bedroom.

This sort of problem solving capability is why autistic people are essential to the modern world.

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07 Apr 2013, 1:12 am

Misslizard wrote:

It's interesting that not one woman mentioned mental illness as a deal breaker on that thread yet several men mentioned it on this one.
So if you met someone,liked them, and later they told you they were being treated for a mental illness you would dump them like a hot potato?
All I can say is that is cold.

Many of the things I've listed are things I've put up with before, and it was a terrible idea.

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07 Apr 2013, 1:32 am

I can put up with a lot, but one of the biggest deal-breakers that comes readily to mind is manipulation.

You know the type... the ones who LOVE watching "Survivor" because it's how they live life - messing with other people's heads, lying, cheating, backstabbing, playing games, pretending to be your ally...
How much can they improve their own life at someone else's expense, or ruin someone else's life just for fun, and not get busted for it...

Only the extreme form of this is known in black & white as "sociopathy", but I think it comes in many shades of grey... with lots of lives being ruined along the way.

...So, yeah, the girl who wants to play emotion/head games to elicit more "passion", etc, you can just keep on walkin'. (Preferably off a cliff, thus doing the world a huge favour!)

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07 Apr 2013, 4:03 am

Too large or small of a certain body extremity.
Horrible personality.
Cheap "morals".
Stupidly.
If they are a feminist.
If they are more manly looking than me.
Height
Weight
That's all I could think of.

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07 Apr 2013, 4:48 am

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Kids
Obese
Dirty
Ugly
Hard drugs (or too much pot)
Alcoholic
Manic (depressive, bi polar etc)
Daddy issues
Rape/molestation victim
Victim mentality in other ways
Insecure in her intelligence
Fundamentalist in any way
Dresses like a skank
Too much makeup
No education / ambition
Hasn't read a book since high school
Free time is spent watching TV 24/7 or some other sheeple sh**.
Obsessed with texting, facebook, tumblr etc.
Enjoys using sarcasm a lot
99% of her friends are single guys
Likes male attention way too much (see daddy issues)
Compares me to her ex in any way
Orange skin
Fake breasts/whatever else/Botox etc.
Stuck up/snobby
A lot of tattoos, or piercings
Sees sex as a purely physical thing and her history indicates that quite clearly
Black/hispanic (sorry, just not attracted to them)
Militant feminist
Bossy/demanding
Masculine
Can't give me alone time

and last but not least, ignorant and happy about it.

I could go on, but I'm sure this list will get me flamed enough.

Hispanic is not a race. They can look any way. And what a ridiculously and stupid long list. So if a girl is absolutely lovely and amazing, you would turn her down just because she uses sarcasm a lot? And also 'victim of rape'. As if she can help that. Victims of rape/molestation can make amazing partners later in life.
And many people are a bit insecure, also sometimes about their intelligent/capabilities.

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07 Apr 2013, 7:17 am

Vigilans wrote:

-Secretly has penis

That's called a clitoris (a woman's secret penis).

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07 Apr 2013, 7:25 am

ArrantPariah wrote:

Vigilans wrote:

-Secretly has penis

That's called a clitoris (a woman's secret penis).

so all women have penisses?

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07 Apr 2013, 9:09 am

Shhhhhhhh..... They're secret penises.

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07 Apr 2013, 9:18 am

Romantically speaking, any female with a Cluster B Personality Disorder or who regularly/consistently displays symptoms commonly exhibited by those with Cluster B PD (even if not diagnosed as such).

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07 Apr 2013, 9:19 am

ShelbyGt500 wrote:

1) Negative attitude toward men. Why start at less than zero?

I am equal opportunity. On a scale of 1 to 10, everybody starts at -37. They work their way up or down from there.

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07 Apr 2013, 9:25 am

My biggest pet peeve of all: Someone who can't put their phone away for half an hour without getting the shakes or compulsive urges to constantly check it, even during a date.

I had a test for this that I would use on a first date. I would leave my phone turned on and on the table, and either have someone call me at a specific time or use an automated ringback service to make the phone ring.

And ring. And ring. I might take a quick glance at it, then ignore it. I'm not interested in answering the pone, but rather to see how she reacts to someone not answering a phone call. If I'm lucky, they don't give it a 2nd thought. I can live with having to say that I'll call them back later. I've had a few, however, that would get so antsy over it, they would pick up MY phone and answer it! They are so addicted to their phones, seeing one go unanswered drove them completely batty.

The dates were usually over soon after.

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