Never been in love

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I don't know, I think everyone has a perception of being in love but it is a difficult term to grasp, I think for many people on the spectrum, they enjoy doing what they love and tend to become more immersed or lost in what they are doing at that specific moment like painting or programming.

I can't say for sure. Have I been infatuated with a few women over the years? Sure but I've never been loved back so I'd only be in love if I was in a relationship which I have not.

I've never been in love, but I've been in a few relationships. I'd say that I'm too young to fall in love, but I'm 24 now and I've not been in a relationship for more than a month or two. I can't get enough rapport with most people that I would feel anything like love and I can't trust them either. In my experience people are vicious and will throw you away without warning.

Yes, I am jaded.

You're still very young.
I'm 25 and I was in love when I was 21/22, but I no longer have contact with that person at all and no longer think about them other than occasional fond memories of our friendship and only vague feelings of annoyance at times.
I don't however know how I would react if I met them again. It may be powerful and beyond my control again, who knows....
They are on another continent now though.

However, my point is; I would hope to fall in love even more profoundly again at some point in my life. That relationship was so not ''IT'', the ''big one'', the ''real thing'' for me. It was just something that happened. He wasn't even my boyfriend, we just had a brief intense friendship with some sexual elements.

I may have already experienced being in love with somebody, but I am still too young to write myself off and so are you. By a long shot!

Maybe not everyone does fall deeply in love with someone, I'm not sure; I think it is almost impossible to avoid it at some point, almost, depending upon your level of contact with people in general.

I was so deeply in love with that person at the time, I remember that it actually hurt.
But I was so young!
I think there are various different layers and depths and varieties of love, and it is okay to experience a few kinds. Probably the longer you are with someone the deeper that love can grow and change and branch out.
I think you make a choice whether or not to go on that journey with someone or not.
He didn't choose to take that journey with me, but there was something there. He wasn't right for me though.

I have to admit that it is scary to think of feeling that way again.
But it is so worth it. You do risk crippling hurt, but then to avoid any mess or pain is not to live at all.

If you find it, go for it and don't hold back.
That's my advice.

I don't think I've been in love before, but I have had strong feelings for someone before. he first time was when I was 13/14 and the second time at 16/17. The first time was unrequited, but the second seemed like a possibility, but eventually backfired. The second time took forever to get over, and I'm not sure if I want to feel that way again. Having feelings for someone is fun, but it's not worth the pain that comes with it. I'm 18 now and haven't felt anything for anyone in nearly two years. I have met a lot of new male friends over the past year, and even went on a few dates with someone, but I still don't feel any emotional connection with anyone. My attraction with people stops with finding them cute. It is a physical rather than emotional attraction. The last time I had my heart broken must have killed my ability to have romantic feelings for someone else.

I don't know what it feels like. Anxiety clouds too many of my emotions.

You know, I think a big reason why many aspies feel this way is because they're more likely to value their relationships differently- that is to say, their ideal partner's mind/personality trumps sex. Which isn't to say that there aren't plenty of sex-obsessed aspies out there (I'm not one of them, for the record). It's just that it's a lot harder to, I think, find a best friend than it is to find a boy/girlfriend. When people date, I truly believe that that's what they should look for- a best friend, who you're hopefully attracted to.

Perhaps a true test of the strength of a relationship is to go without sex, or even making out, for a period of time.

I always assumed love was a weak emotion, and that because I wasn't an emotional person I wouldn't fall in love. I had never developed a crush, I generally didn't really feel much emotion so I assumed it wouldn't happen but last year I got proven wrong. It hit me like a ton of bricks from the moment I met her for the first time, never felt anything like it. I ended up going out with this girl within a week or meeting her and she told me all the things that I felt and couldn't put into words. She ended up leaving me for my friend last September and my heart shattered into an infinite amount of pieces. Still not properly gotten over it to be honest. It happens when you least expect it, so I wouldn't worry if you don't feel it now.

I think so, once, with the only woman who has ever truly seemed to understand me and was able to "unlock" me, I guess. We're still good friends and talk when we have time, but she lives in Canada, and we haven't actually seen each other in two years. She also has a boyfriend now.

Since then I've had a few persistent crushes, but felt no new love beyond friendship.

I have never been in a relationship, but I have had a crush. It was on a girl in high school who was better than me in every aspect. I rarely talked to her and by now she's gone. I hope to find someone similar to her or a woman similar to me when I move to a university.

I have but it was bad love... :/

Maybe there isn't a ''One''.

Maybe there's just an infinite number of connections you can make with people, and love is there in all of them in all its various forms?

Just a thought.

Don't limit yourself to the idea of a ''One''.

Open your heart to many connections.