How do I get people to stop nagging me to date?

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They mean well and want you to be happy. Just tell them that you'll start dating when you're ready to, and nicely ask them to stop pressuring you.

Just say you are in a relationship and say that your significant other doesn't want to meet them.

That wouldn't work. The last time I had a boyfriend they didn't know they wanted his full name in order to run a back ground check, so they'd see though that pretty fast.

You could try telling them your an Aromantic Asexual or a version of that in much simpler terms. Or say you want to focus on loving god instead of loving a partner

Do you know someone who can act?

Someone who can act rude, crude, and generally obnoxious while you pretend to be soooo totally in love with him?

Or her?

"Yo, mama-san! Chibi's da best thing for me since I got outta juvie hall! I'm gonna axe her ta marry me soon's I gets myseff dat bouncer job down to da strip club..."



"... yeah, baybee!"

Maybe THEN they'll get off your case.

This is probably the least helpful reply you'll get, but when people nag me about my personal life, I usually fire back by criticizing their personal life. As in:

Grandpa: Why don't you have a boyfriend?
Me: ...why don't you?

Out of curiosity, how old are you now? Do you ever plan on leaving your home town?

In my opinion and I speak from experience it is very bad advice to tell someone to change to attract a person. All that will happen is that you will attract the WRONG person, and also that they will later feel fooled and cheated when your real self appears. You can't keep up the 'act' forever.

Tell them that you will handle things yourself. Tell them people meet through online and other ways now and you will manage your own love life. Tell them thank you but this is private and you do not need their help.

Thanks for all the replies and advice, it helped me to figure out what I wanted to say.

I sat down with my relatives and explained to them that there are things that I still want to do before I get into (or atempt) a relationship. I emphasized that even though they may want the whole relationship/settling down thing for me, it wasn't what I wanted for myself right now. And that I didn't need to be in a relationship with someone just so that they could take care of me, or to be happy as a person; I can look after myself and I am quite content, even without a boyfriend.
I also asked them about their relationship experiences from when they were around my age (almost none of which ended well), which really made my point.

Last edited by chibi555 on 23 Apr 2013, 8:02 pm, edited 1 time in total.

Well done!