Can aspie girls get over *him*?

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I think a lot of what has been said here already is relevant.

We do tend to get obsessive about things, or even people. The tendency to analyse the absolute crap out of everything does not help this. Especially if they are our first boyfriend / girlfriend too.

And more than that were the first people in our lives who were truly *kind* to us in many ways, not including family - somebody like that can open up doors for us to experience things we have never had the chance to before (especially since we tend to be social outcasts). Getting over all of that combined can take some serious time - especially if they were he one who broke up with you.

I'm not sure how long ago this was for you, but it's certainly not uncommon to take some serious time to get over our first, especially if they were very kind or if you had a strong connection to them. I wish you luck.

c: *Sigh* Everybody feels differently but none the less, it sucks and I know how that is.. *hug* Good luck feeling better.

By the way,

Actually, it does help. A lot. I'd never get to where I need to go without it.
At the absolute worst, it is a waste of time, going over something again and hoping to find some angle I missed. It never hurts.
More often, my view changes over time and going through something again, months or years later, provides new and useful insight.

I dont think it has anything to do with being aspie

Thank you guys for all your thoughtful responses. I really appreciate them, even if I'm months late reading them