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This bloke sounds like a bit of a wally, you should avoid him and be more assertive instead of bending to his demands. It sounds like he is only interested in one thing and although you think the good traits he shares with you make him exempt from treating you right, they shouldn't.

I wholeheartedly agree w/the dominant theme of the posts here...the guy is bad news. What I see in his ridicule of your appearance & demands that you prove you are a woman, combined w/his history of online abuse of others, is a classic presentation of an abuser. It's not going to get better, in all likelihood it's going to get worse.

A broken heart is better than a destroyed sense of self, broken arm, shattered cheekbone.

Stop now. Please.

Avoid this guy and anyone like him.

Beep beep!

That says it all.


GET THE f**k AWAY FROM HIM!

You're very welcome. Thanks for letting us know you read the replies and what you thought about it.

Not everyone takes time to do that online. I appreciate that you did.

The first red flag is, he won't talk about feelings or personal subjects.
Second, if he's hard to really get to know, how can you trust someone like that fully.
Third, so this dude suddenly starts talking about marriage when he's not even sure whether you're a guy or a girl.
I mean there is nothing wrong with marrying any gender but he makes it sound like he's talking about a life long commitment to someone whom he doesn't know much about.
Fourth, umm he wants to see a footage of private parts of you...

Block him

Thanks Popsicle; I really want to thank you again for your wisdom and help with this.

This was a pretty rough day. I had been close to giving him more images of me, that may suggest a female form at least. Then today, after I read your replies and held off, he really launched into the most savage attack on my appearance. I'm glad i didn't give him more ammunition. He called me hideous and said he never wanted to talk to me again. It was pretty brutal.

I told him to back off and I won't let him ruin my self esteem with that kind of negative reinforcement. Then I asked him to send me a picture of his perfect six pack (which i know he doesn't have)

I think it is great the way you stood up for yourself.

Also now he has really shown his true colors. Doesn't seem like a nice person whatsoever.

I think his marriage proposal was fake to get you to trust him more.

It's scary how he reacts to the word no.

Thanks again Popsicle. This side to him is pretty awful; today is the worst I've seen. I have a pretty unshakable self estimate appearance wise, but those kinds of attacks wear a woman down quickly. His HFA side is challenging communication wise, but mostly I like it. It does, however, require a great deal of trust so not as to misinterpret things in the wrong way.

The sociopath in him seems to come out when he perceives a threat, when he misunderstand NT behaviour (and humour especially) and when feels he's gaining control.

I agree this is not a good combination of traits.

I am SO glad I met all of you. I nearly stepped into a big trap. Who knows what he may have done with the images he asked for. i wouldn't put extortion past him.

Yep, an abuser, whatever his diagnosis. That is classic.



All his traits serve his sociopathy...the niceness is the lure, the bait on the hook, to lull his next victim into the trap. So I completely agree w/heatherbk...block him. Shut him out fast & quick before he can figure out how to wheedle back into your affections.



I'm actually a little surprised you listened! And sooo glad.

Others have come to this site, asked for our take on people who were clearly toxic & just ignored everyone & justified some of the most egregious behavior in the name of 'love'.