how many here, will never get married

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I don't want to get married. I don't have the money for it, and I don't like feeling "trapped". I'm able to dedicate myself to someone, I just don't like the idea of having to "prove it" by getting married, I guess. I think I'm also more reluctant than most because I nearly did get married a few years ago, and know how much of a mistake it would have been. What if it's a mistake the next time I asked someone? I don't trust myself to make sound decisions sometimes.

I don't think I'll get married. I feel now too old to have kids. And without planning to start a family, I don't see the point in getting married.

Two failed marriages in my youth
Happy with long term partner of many years, not bothering with marriage.

Hey now, cooking fancy dinners for a horde of cats is a noble pursuit.

I'll never get married because I don't want to

I fail to see what the big deal is with marriage

it is a ceremony that harks back to the time when women were seen as possessions
and passed over to the ownership of a man along with their inheritence

The traditional words of the marriage ceremony say 'til death do us part' and most people are unable
to stick to this vow so what is the point?? You've effectively lied in church.

It's mainly an excuse to have a big ceremony to show off to all your friends and relatives in an exceedingly false way
that sets people up to fail in my opinion as they can't possibly live up to the fairytale that the wedding day promotes

Anyone with half an ounce of sense can see the trap marriage is

Far from not being married indicating low status/not being able to find a partner - it is a sign of intelligence and individuality in my opinion

Me. Despite of "never say never" I´m almost 100% sure of it.

Am I the only aspie with this much ambition towards getting married? I thought there would be someone else!

Marriage, and I? Work? Ahahaha, what a good joke! Marriage is outdated, and only cause of religion is it still around. It really is like dating only one person for years. Not something special that is "blessed" or anything. You could technically "marry" an animal, I think. I'd rather just date till either me or her die.

"Marriage" as the law frames it carries more legal ramifications than I care to deal with.

And society places expectations upon it beyond what I care to try to live up to.

For all practical purposes, it can be safely assumed that I won’t ever get married. I’m not sure if I’d eventually want to marry a hypothetical girlfriend, assuming I’m ever in a situation in which it makes sense. I’d definitely like to have children. But the fact of the matter is I’m running out of time and it’s not going to happen.

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I hope I'm not one of them...

I have to agree with this. Besides, marriage is a legal institution that primarily favors women (alimony laws, child support laws, custody laws, divorce judges, etc.). I would much prefer the de facto marriage like they have in Quebec, which allows for the benefits of marriage but not the hassles.

Even a quasi-marriage, I'm not sure. I have lots of mental health and neurological issues that will need resolving first; I am a 15-year-old emo girl when it comes to emotional maturity (including the cutting). As it stands now, it's not going to happen. I am definitely not ready now. In 10 years, maybe, or maybe not.

My level of indifference on this subject is high.

I have a high risk of not being able to get married because of my condition.
So if in case that happens, I will adopt 2 kids, 1 girl, and when the girl is at least 9 or 10, a baby boy.
(This was my plan in case I never found someone to love at age 30.)

I'm never getting married.

I will get married. I will be forced into an arranged marriage whether I like it or not. Sometimes being Indian sucks balls.