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14 May 2013, 2:09 pm

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Budget $3,200,000
Box office $2,549,605

What a failure.


It's not even available on blu-ray disc either. Even though it's a 2009 movie. :?



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14 May 2013, 2:11 pm

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Of course it's acting. :P However to a certain extent there are truths in almost everything that was in that movie. The ritualistic mornings, eating the same types of foods regularly, keeping to a certain wardrobe (not the exact same clothes over but not really expanding the wardrobe, maybe) and most importantly a very selective focus on interests.

Beyond all that it was an interesting watch. It speaks volumes about how people with Asperger's work and think but again, it's to the extreme.


I agree with this.

I don't think it was necessarily the best representation of the way someone with Asperger's appears to outside observers. The external manifestations tend to be a bit more subtle than what was shown.

Of course the only things I have to go by are my own experiences and the things I've heard from people here but, though we definitely come across as strange to other people, it's not quite so obvious, or easy to point out, what exactly we're doing wrong.

On the other hand, for me at least, the way he behaved did a very good job of illustrating what an aspie's internal world looks like. That is to say, he didn't behave the way I behave, but he did behave the way I often feel. I don't look, to the outside world, the way he does. But the world does look, to me, the way it does to him. I'm not sure if that makes any sense.



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14 May 2013, 3:31 pm

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No, but I HAVE seen Punch-Drunk Love. That movie kind of depressed me, because the main character reminds me of me (minus the crying in public).


Yes, another very depressing movie, for dating challenged people; equally so as Adam; but at least Punch Drunk has a happier ending



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14 May 2013, 4:39 pm

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my as bf and i were having lunch and he told me he was annoyed with the melody of my voice. he said it was annoying. i felt bad and told him that hearing him say that made me not want to talk anymore. he apologized and said that he didn't want to make me cry. he said he needs people around him who think like him and he brought up the move "adam". he began explaining the premise of the movie then said, i feel like crying. we've been seeing each other for four months, and this is the first time that i've ever heard/seen/felt him express emotions like this.

the next night, we started watching the movie, but didn't finish it because we were both tired and we ended up falling asleep (in each other's arms =P). this happened a couple of weeks ago and i've asked him three times, since, if we were going to finish watching the movie and he said yes, but we haven't so far.


Yes, I've seen the movie. The movie does offer hope in the end though.


Too much hope. An autodidact getting an amazing job not related at all with his studies. It's possible?


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14 May 2013, 5:07 pm

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he mentioned the pitch went higher at the end of my sentences...like i'm asking a question (although i wasn't).

Hi, with me as far as social interaction even with someone I really like, it's like I have an A game and a C game. It's like I have a hard time cruising and engaging in a casual, fun, lunch-time way. like I only have patchy skills as far as just hanging out and being with someone.

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I've seen most of the movie Adam. And it seems like it has a real gap in that it doesn't address sensory issues hardly at all.



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14 May 2013, 8:46 pm

AardvarkGoodSwimmer wrote:
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he mentioned the pitch went higher at the end of my sentences...like i'm asking a question (although i wasn't).

Hi, with me as far as social interaction even with someone I really like, it's like I have an A game and a C game. It's like I have a hard time cruising and engaging in a casual, fun, lunch-time way. like I only have patchy skills as far as just hanging out and being with someone.

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I've seen most of the movie Adam. And it seems like it has a real gap in that it doesn't address sensory issues hardly at all.


yes...

i think that is the way it is with my bf--who is aspie, not as--now that i think about it. we can have pillow talk, and then the rest of the talks....



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15 May 2013, 2:00 pm

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Too much hope. An autodidact getting an amazing job not related at all with his studies. It's possible?


It was related to his skills. He was an electronic engineer, his new job was engineering microchips.



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15 May 2013, 3:17 pm

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Too much hope. An autodidact getting an amazing job not related at all with his studies. It's possible?


It was related to his skills. He was an electronic engineer, his new job was engineering microchips.


Really? I remember that he was working in a astronomical observatory at the end of the movie so I related this to his passion for Astrophysics.


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15 May 2013, 4:30 pm

BanjoGirl wrote:
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Too much hope. An autodidact getting an amazing job not related at all with his studies. It's possible?


It was related to his skills. He was an electronic engineer, his new job was engineering microchips.


Really? I remember that he was working in a astronomical observatory at the end of the movie so I related this to his passion for Astrophysics.


It was related to it, but he said briefly that the job was engineering micro-chips for something about telescopes (I don't remember the exact wording). So, lots around astrophysics with his current skill set. It was a minor detail, I only remember because I watched the film again very recently.



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15 May 2013, 5:37 pm

I actually own that movie and I was bummed out by the ending. I know the guy doesn't always get the girl in the end but this is one movie that I felt he should have.


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16 May 2013, 6:19 am

He really should have got her, in this film. Giving hope to the underdog. Alas :( They seemed to be sending a message to Aspies with this film, 'know your place'.



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16 May 2013, 9:11 am

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He really should have got her, in this film. Giving hope to the underdog. Alas :( They seemed to be sending a message to Aspies with this film, 'know your place'.


But he met another girl in the observatory and he got a great job :)


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16 May 2013, 9:14 am

FalsettoTesla wrote:
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Too much hope. An autodidact getting an amazing job not related at all with his studies. It's possible?


It was related to his skills. He was an electronic engineer, his new job was engineering microchips.


Really? I remember that he was working in a astronomical observatory at the end of the movie so I related this to his passion for Astrophysics.


It was related to it, but he said briefly that the job was engineering micro-chips for something about telescopes (I don't remember the exact wording). So, lots around astrophysics with his current skill set. It was a minor detail, I only remember because I watched the film again very recently.


Aaah. Ok. I remembered him as a guide.


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17 May 2013, 12:41 am

I have watched it. I related about 80% to the character..



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19 May 2013, 2:05 am

BanjoGirl wrote:
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He really should have got her, in this film. Giving hope to the underdog. Alas :( They seemed to be sending a message to Aspies with this film, 'know your place'.


But he met another girl in the observatory and he got a great job :)


Yeah but the ending left everything up in the air. We don't know if he ended up with anyone or not! :?


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19 May 2013, 2:30 am

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BanjoGirl wrote:
Adam82 wrote:
He really should have got her, in this film. Giving hope to the underdog. Alas :( They seemed to be sending a message to Aspies with this film, 'know your place'.


But he met another girl in the observatory and he got a great job :)


Yeah but the ending left everything up in the air. We don't know if he ended up with anyone or not! :?

In a way it was his first relationship and those rarely work out
The relationship on most of the film was a bit forced.

Yes, they were attracted to each other but there is more to a relationship than that and they had some problems when it came to other important things like dining out for example(they had some sort of routine and he was sad they were probably not going to eat the same thing again... Im not even going to try to go into the party scene because that one was a bit more complex imo).

It looks like she wasnt able to deal with all of his issues but she has some issues of her own as well...

Open endings are common in films.
I watched 500 days of summer with my family a year ago and he just meets someone new named auttum.
They barely talk...
My mum needed some time to understand the whole thing(they dubbed the movie into Spanish but left original names, Summer and Auttum dont really mean much to her)