EmAra wrote:
I think regardless of being as/nt everyone has the ability to find love and companionship. I will admit living with my partner at times has challenging but due to just basic misunderstandings. What I have learnt is to actually tell him clearly what I need emotionally from him and why. He appreciates it and will compromise with me. I wouldn't change him for the world, and he is just as capable as any NT of having a meaningful, committed relationship. I understand your viewpoint but I just find it negative and you are kinda selling yourself short.
I agree with you that my viewpoint is negative. But that negativity is justifiable, in the sense that almost every high functioning autistic individual struggles with emotional intimacy, romantic relationships, and love. Considering such difficulties, it is easy to be negative about it.
Like I said, genetically speaking, we are the "unfit", because our design was to be withdrawn and introverted romantically speaking because of our brain chemistry, and how our brains struggles recognizing certain cues and signals. If we were left to nature, without any outside influence or knowledge, the probability of us mating, and passing our genes off to the next generation would be very minimal.
I'm not the only one who is pessimistic and negative- many of my fellow autistic brethren are as well! I've read posts from guys who are about to give up on love, who have given up on love, who have become misogynists because of their perceived rejection by ALL women (although that is highly inaccurate), and who are questioning using prostitutes to fulfill their romantic needs, or have done so already to fulfill those needs.
It is not easy being positive in the face of such overwhelming adversity.
28 May 2013, 11:31 am
