daisysunflower wrote:
I agree with you entirely, sadly this is not a perfect world and no body's perfect. We're not advocating cheating and lying usually but looking at the wider perspective, what happens if the cheater after owning up and asking partner to forgive, forget and move on, puts themselves at risk? - Revenge, honour killings, danger from another party eg uncle, big brother etc- I don't think confession would be very appropriate then. There are other situations where ideal behaviour would not necessarily be the best plan of action and being cautious would be advisable......
In Tori243's situation she was lucky her guy reacted in that way, it doesn't matter who the other person is or what issues they have, some people can't cope (whether they are an aspie or not) w/receiving confessions like that.
Unfortunately extreme events do happen and rather often.......
Thing is, those events are not relevant to her experience.
And the fact that you referred to it as confessing to "our beloveds" rather than "the scary violent people we should be trying to get away from anyway" plus the way you said that
this situation should serve as a lesson not to admit to it in the future (complete with a smiley) heavily implies that you were not referring to risk of harm in your earlier post.
It looks a lot like you were just coming up with excuses to justify lying and, after being called on it, are just trying to come up with more extreme excuses.
23 May 2013, 4:43 pm
