Re: Hartzofspace
Power of Two is an online resource for marriage counseling. It's not exactly the same as an in person counselor because you won't get as much interaction and feedback, but it is still pretty helpful. There are lots of exercises, reflection prompts, assessments, and videos.
I was a little worried that if we went to a counselor who didn't have experience with AS, we might get blamed or criticized or receive advice that isn't helpful to our specific situations. (I have a friend who has AS, and suspects his wife may have some traits as well, and they have actually gotten fired by a therapist in the past before he was diagnosed!) Also, since I am a student and he is recently graduated, we don't have a lot of extra money available...
So far, he still seems resistant to my suggestion that either one or both of us may have AS. But he is willing to talk about the books I am reading and also willing to put in the effort to working on our relationship, so I guess at the moment I have to be satisfied with that and not get stuck on the labels of AS-related or non-AS-related.
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Paintitpretty,
marriage is a big step, and both of you are still young. Maybe asking for more time to make the decision together is an option? I don't know how you feel about being far away from your partner, but it's possible that it may make it easier to communicate with him in certain ways. I have been long distance with my boyfriend for most of the time that we have been dating, and it has been surprisingly easy. Although travel is expensive, we're both well suited to keeping in touch regularly through email and skyping, etc. Although we have sometimes had to work disagreements out, the distance actually can help because it gives us time to calm down and think through our positions clearly before going back to talk to each other, and that cooling down time and being able to think through things in advance really helps us to talk things through more smoothly.
10 Jul 2013, 10:09 am
