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aspiemike
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16 Jun 2013, 10:11 am

You will have to be the one to ask for the date since most women don't want to put themselves out there before the man does as indicated. If you get yes, have something planned that should be fun as well. If there is an uncertain answer or no for an answer, dropping the topic of a date entirely usually goes fine in my experience.



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16 Jun 2013, 10:45 am

aspiemike wrote:
You will have to be the one to ask for the date since most women don't want to put themselves out there before the man does as indicated. If you get yes, have something planned that should be fun as well. If there is an uncertain answer or no for an answer, dropping the topic of a date entirely usually goes fine in my experience.


Easier said than done! I guess I will have just to project a more positive image of myself, even if that will be hard to maintain, before I ask to increase my chances of being accepted



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19 Jun 2013, 12:10 pm

The problem is you are dependent on this girl for good feelings, and when you do that then you're not really living. You need to become someone who has aspirations and goals outside of love and dating and realize what a great person you are. Women are more attracted to those who are self-sufficient and are not dependent on them. Your obsession and your neediness for her is only driving her away.



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21 Jun 2013, 6:41 am

MacDragard wrote:
The problem is you are dependent on this girl for good feelings, and when you do that then you're not really living. You need to become someone who has aspirations and goals outside of love and dating and realize what a great person you are. Women are more attracted to those who are self-sufficient and are not dependent on them. Your obsession and your neediness for her is only driving her away.


Then I don't have much chance with anyone! College was too hard for me and I'll probably have to settle for some boring run of the mill job since I don't know what type of work suits me



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21 Jun 2013, 10:21 am

The harder you try and push and impose yourself on her the more she will dislike you. She's already told you she's not interested. No matter what you do, that will not change. Its been 5 years. This is not a movie or a sitcom... quite honestly if she was the one posting here saying 'this guy wont leave me alone' I'd suggest she get a restraining order. It can and may get to that point so think on that.

Move on. Its not easy but move on.



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21 Jun 2013, 12:54 pm

Alright man, im usually super positive and try to bring people on this forum up to there feet, but im always honest the best thing you can do is give up, its over man
its never happening it never will if she wanted you youd be together, all you are doing is wasting more time fantasizing about something that will never happen, the best thing you can do is let her go and get on with your own life



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21 Jun 2013, 5:05 pm

Dantac wrote:
The harder you try and push and impose yourself on her the more she will dislike you. She's already told you she's not interested. No matter what you do, that will not change. Its been 5 years. This is not a movie or a sitcom... quite honestly if she was the one posting here saying 'this guy wont leave me alone' I'd suggest she get a restraining order. It can and may get to that point so think on that.

Move on. Its not easy but move on.


As I said in a previous post, I have avoided her for two years and before that, I was quite respectable of her stance on this. I have a self-imposed restraining order, in that if I have the opportunity to go somewhere I think she may be I decline to go



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22 Jun 2013, 3:34 pm

I loved a girl for about 5 years even though she treated me badly i thought i would marry her and have kids she was so perfect. she was also my best friend. and its not like she didn't want to be around me. she liked me as a friend but she never told me she didn't love me and never said she did. she would date guys and stop talking to me and tease me and all this stuff. and i thought i would never move on. then she got a bf got engaged in 6 months. then got married after 9 months of meeting him, she got married in mid may this year and is already pregnant.
After she met him she stopped talking to me and stopped being my friend. when she asked if i would come to her wedding if she got married i sat in my truck and cried for about 20 minutes and then our friendship pretty much ended. i didn't think i would ever be ok with it but after she got married i pretty much got over it. Once i realized it was over.