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24 Jun 2013, 9:44 am

It's nice if a woman can tell me what is expected in a nice way, without degrading me and making me feel like human waste.



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25 Jun 2013, 4:44 pm

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I prefer equality in the relationship. I feel that if my girlfriend tells me what to do all the time (or if I were to tell her what to do all the time), it devalues the relationship as it makes it too one-sided. We make decisions together, if one treats the other then they'll be treated in future etc. I think it makes the relationship stronger as there's a mutual respect, and with that, mutual love
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26 Jun 2013, 12:57 pm

No, I don't like being TOLD what to do (or what not to do) Decisions should be made by mutual agreement.


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27 Jun 2013, 12:47 am

I handle the money, math, science, philosophy, cooking, and psychoanalyzing.. she handles the social stuff, planning outings, getting me out of the house etc.



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02 Jul 2013, 5:51 am

I've often taken the initiative because I'm antsy and gravitate towards quiet, shy, and introverted people who appreciate it, but I think I'd prefer to be with someone who takes the initiative and makes decisions at this point. Neutrality or a partner who only has tendencies towards one or the other is my ideal, but I'm leaving a relationship in which I did almost everything (I'd have been thrilled for 25/75!) and it's given me a lot to think about. What makes me feel loved is someone treating me in a way that says I'm interesting and desirable enough to seek out and seek a deeper connection with.

I want to avoid a repeat by any means possible, and the extreme of being bossed around is much better than the opposite.



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02 Jul 2013, 7:00 am

uwmonkdm wrote:
I handle the money, math, science, philosophy, cooking, and psychoanalyzing.. she handles the social stuff, planning outings, getting me out of the house etc.


So in other words her daily decisions are limited to what to wear and what you're both doing on Friday night?

Good call there with not letting her think too much, it might give her wrinkles.



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02 Jul 2013, 7:49 am

blue_bean wrote:
uwmonkdm wrote:
I handle the money, math, science, philosophy, cooking, and psychoanalyzing.. she handles the social stuff, planning outings, getting me out of the house etc.


So in other words her daily decisions are limited to what to wear and what you're both doing on Friday night?

Good call there with not letting her think too much, it might give her wrinkles.



I don't think he's pointing a gun at her to be that way and fill such role. She can simply break up with him if she doesn't like it.