Jono wrote:
punkguy378 wrote:
Well, it seems that dating sites are a waste of time at least it seems so. I keep trying different approaches and I get very little results. I mean I have tried the whole "comment on their profile, ask a few questions" thing and it seems to net responses about 5% of the time. I mean my grammar is great no computer-speak at all. I never say "hey baby let's talk" because I would never say something like that because that is too tacky and boorish. Not my style.
I am like wracking my brain. I have changed my profile a bunch of times. I mean even the unattractive women do not seem to talk to me. I mean I am not being picky at all.
Plus you never know who these people are on here. There are so many scammers on these sites and fake profiles that there is no way to know if any of these are "real" interested people. Then you got the ones who have no intention of meeting you and only want to want to be an online buddy. Oh then there are the ones who answer questions and have the personality of a cadrboard box. Seriously, you have to completely lead the conversation.
I am currently on Okcupid and honestly I want to go back to Eharmony since I got way more responses out of it but I really do not have the money to pay for that and Okcupid is free. But then again free sites probably have more fakes and weirdos on it then anywhere else.
free online dating = frustrating experience.
Any advice? Do I need to just keep sending a few messages a day to different women? Also, Maybe my profile is too long? Maybe my style is scaring them off? I mean I am into the whole punk and goth thing. Maybe I need to just put a picture of me in just normal clothes. I'm sorry but my style is the way I am and I feel that I want to attract certain types. I am looking for someone who is into the same style as me.
What have you written in your profile? Maybe it's something about how you're presenting yourself that's putting them off. Also, when you message someone, don't just ask questions about their profile. Look for something on their profile about a common interest and start a conversation about that.
Oh okay I think I understand maybe if they like a certain show I like I could say "How about that one time in the episode where the character did this.... I thought that was really funny..." or "I cannot wait for the next season because....
Sometimes I ask more questions so maybe I need to make more open statements and also make sure the question is an open question and needs more than a one or two word answer.
I mean one time someone said they did stage art or something and I was like "Stage art? that sounds really interesting. What kind of art is it?" or something like that. But I never got a response from that one. It was a while ago and I just moved on.
Also, my profile needs to be a little shorter I think. It is a little too long. My pictures may throw people off. I am into punk/goth type fashion so I am sure there are a number of women that do not like this stuff or may outright hate it. But honestly I am interested in someone who likes my style. I mean maybe I should not put stuff like that in there. But they are going to find out sooner than later I would say. I mean people are weird and if they see this they could think I am a criminal or something. Which would be really stupid because no one should judge based on clothes. I mean some people have pics without their face or it looks like they are in a basement with this spaced out look on their face. They look pretty scary. My pictures are actually very presentable and are not really weird or odd well in comparison to some pics I have seen on profiles.
The last women I ended getting a date with was into the same stuff and actually could not stop raving about my pictures and she kept asking me to send more. She also sent a load of pictures. I really thought we were hitting it off. We were flirting and everything. Then once we met in person it all fell flat even from what I saw of her. We just did not click in any way except maybe Like I was talking to a friend.
01 Jul 2013, 6:57 am
