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30 Jun 2013, 12:28 pm

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This is what I said today when he handed me my coffee:
"You should quit your job so we can date. I think we were made for each other baby."
And I said it seriously. then everyone in earshot looked at me. then my barista laughed.
then everyone else laughed.
So I thought it was a success and left the store feeling confident.
What do you guys think I should do next?


I'm curious, after all the advice you were given why did you decide to do that?

What makes you think his job is in the way of dating after work hours?



I keep tending to figure that well I have nothing to lose.

And I don't really think that his job is actualy in the way. I think he should get a better job.



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30 Jun 2013, 12:54 pm

TinyDancer wrote:
Persevero wrote:
TinyDancer wrote:
This is what I said today when he handed me my coffee:
"You should quit your job so we can date. I think we were made for each other baby."
And I said it seriously. then everyone in earshot looked at me. then my barista laughed.
then everyone else laughed.
So I thought it was a success and left the store feeling confident.
What do you guys think I should do next?


I'm curious, after all the advice you were given why did you decide to do that?

What makes you think his job is in the way of dating after work hours?



I keep tending to figure that well I have nothing to lose.

And I don't really think that his job is actualy in the way. I think he should get a better job.


I hope you're not expecting that he has some engineering degree.



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30 Jun 2013, 3:24 pm

As stated: people that work making beverages/meals have to be friendly for their job.

However you can try to find out stuff about him once there arent that many people and see where things go.

Ive had some decent conversations with cashiers that werent in a rush for example



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30 Jun 2013, 4:17 pm

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I think I'm in love with the barista that fills my coffee every morning. We've never talked before; I can just SEE it in his EYES. Trust me on this. I don't think I'll ever meet anyone else quite like him.

Should I try to let him know, or should I just make my coffee at home from now on?


Did he touch your hand?



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30 Jun 2013, 4:18 pm

There is no perfect way to approach someone. You just have to kinda DO IT so I think its great that you made the leap!You did it the way I have in the past- where I make a joke out of it yet they also know its serious so then if they are into it then they can make a move, say smthg next. Its as good a mthod as any bcs you are not TOTALLY sticking your neck out, its fun and if it doesnt work out, you can just be like hey whatever, I'm confident enuf to try- whatever...NEXT! ha! let us know how it goes.



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30 Jun 2013, 4:19 pm

There is no perfect way to approach someone. You just have to kinda DO IT so I think its great that you made the leap!You did it the way I have in the past- where I make a joke out of it yet they also know its serious so then if they are into it then they can make a move, say smthg next. Its as good a mthod as any bcs you are not TOTALLY sticking your neck out, its fun and if it doesnt work out, you can just be like hey whatever, I'm confident enuf to try- whatever...NEXT! ha! let us know how it goes.



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30 Jun 2013, 4:44 pm

This tactic works well as woman-to-man but not man-to-woman.

I expect he's gonna accept unless you look like scarecrow.



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30 Jun 2013, 5:17 pm

You think you're in love with someone you've never spoken to.
Is "in love" the new term for "kinda attracted to" or something?


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30 Jun 2013, 5:20 pm

Stalk wrote:
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I think I'm in love with the barista that fills my coffee every morning. We've never talked before; I can just SEE it in his EYES. Trust me on this. I don't think I'll ever meet anyone else quite like him.

Should I try to let him know, or should I just make my coffee at home from now on?


Did he touch your hand?



Yeah, one time, and it was like i was electrecuted.



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30 Jun 2013, 5:29 pm

TinyDancer wrote:
Stalk wrote:
TinyDancer wrote:
I think I'm in love with the barista that fills my coffee every morning. We've never talked before; I can just SEE it in his EYES. Trust me on this. I don't think I'll ever meet anyone else quite like him.

Should I try to let him know, or should I just make my coffee at home from now on?


Did he touch your hand?



Yeah, one time, and it was like i was electrecuted.


go for it. Ask him out. If he rejects you, you will feel better because you will not be wondering any more.


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