How to tell boyfriend to shower

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Walk around him with clothespins on the nose.

Indeed just shower with him, tell him straight. It doesn't really matter. If he smells, he smells lol. On the other side, every 2 days is pretty normal. It's not good to shower every day. So he might just need a better deodorant.

Yes exactly. It's one thing if you're not in a relationship, but we like to cuddle. 1 shower per 2 days is not conducive to that. Thanks for the advice. I think I'll try the saving water approach. It's positive reinforcement for him Oh Skinner...

I shower twice a day. I smell like crap if I don't.

Wait until the age of austerity really kicks in and people cannot afford the energy costs, will be back like I remember it here in Britain in the 60s when only Americans had showers and you took a bath once a week.

Funny though, I don't recall people smelling back in those days, I was just a kid so wouldn't smell anyway, but even adults didnt, maybe its because foods were natural back then and we didnt eat all this processed stuff?

I would simply tell him, that because of you being so close to him, you can smell him very close too, and that sometimes that close he doesnt smell that good. I think there is nothing bad about it, because in the end means, that you would like to be more close to him. ^^

I honestly do believe that honesty is the best approach to all things in life. It doesn't mean you have to be an as*hole, there are gentle ways of framing things but being honest prevents so much misunderstanding and suspicion down the road. People might not always like what you say but they will respect you for being straight with them.

Also, on a practical level, not all body odour is created equal or caused by poor hygiene. Some of it relates to genetics, diet and overall health.

I agree completely. It also helps having some authority over the situation, which a boyfriend or girlfriend should have. About six months ago, one of our last surviving WWII vets, who had been coming into my library since the 1920's, developed incontinence. Well, he created a real mess and stunk to high heaven, and nobody wanted to be near him. Well, a number of people who knew him talked to him, but to no avail. When that didn't work, I talked to him and he immediately took steps to rectify the problem.

So, you are right. These problems need to be dealt with tactfully but firmly by somebody with some leverage over the offending party.

This is true too. I've found a good diet does wonders for minimizing, though not eliminating, body odor. Steve Jobs was the classic case. As a Buddhist, he ate a very strict vegetarian diet, and decided to give up bathing--and his employees have since written that they couldn't stand to be around him. From my own experience, eating a good diet does help with body odor, but it hardly eliminates it altogether.

Since he is also an aspie, wouldn't it help to be a bit more straightforward with it? Telling your boyfriend to shower is one thing, the willingness of the partner to follow through with it is another. Good luck.

Perhaps she should shower him.

Just straight up tell him.