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18 Jul 2013, 6:21 am

billiscool and his threads...



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18 Jul 2013, 10:29 am

Hey I always read billiscool's name as billi's school, but now I realize it is probably bill is cool.



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18 Jul 2013, 11:40 am

I think others covered why she regards it as offensive but I'm wondering if the wife ask him if he's still single or has he gotten a girlfriend ye. Those questions are gnerally acceptable in NT land coming from friends you don't talk to much as part of general conversation but some say that in a negative way to be a b!tch. It can be hard for us Aspies to understand all those types of differences.


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18 Jul 2013, 2:43 pm

Aspie1 wrote:
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Are you still single and fapping on porn every Saturday night?

What's the difference? Most wives try avoid having sex with their husbands any way their can; "I have a headache", "I'm too tired", etc. At least in America. Married or single, sex encounters are still few and far between.

That is so sexist. I have a bigger sexual appetite than my boyfriend and I daresay it shall stay the same when we're married! Women who hate sex with their husbands shouldn't have married the guy to start with!


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18 Jul 2013, 2:47 pm

EmoGlambertAspie wrote:
Aspie1 wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Are you still single and fapping on porn every Saturday night?

What's the difference? Most wives try avoid having sex with their husbands any way their can; "I have a headache", "I'm too tired", etc. At least in America. Married or single, sex encounters are still few and far between.

That is so sexist. I have a bigger sexual appetite than my boyfriend and I daresay it shall stay the same when we're married! Women who hate sex with their husbands shouldn't have married the guy to start with!


Yup. Consummation of the marriage is inevitable, so physical compatibility is important, too.



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18 Jul 2013, 3:08 pm

nick007 wrote:
I think others covered why she regards it as offensive but I'm wondering if the wife ask him if he's still single or has he gotten a girlfriend ye. Those questions are gnerally acceptable in NT land coming from friends you don't talk to much as part of general conversation but some say that in a negative way to be a b!tch. It can be hard for us Aspies to understand all those types of differences.

Actually, that is a valid point.



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18 Jul 2013, 8:40 pm

The way I see it is this: If it's a personal question and pertains to a situation that is personal to her alone and has nothing to do with you... It's offensive. Not only is it personal, but asking a question like that is seen as not respecting boundaries.



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18 Jul 2013, 11:11 pm

How would you feel if you had a girlfriend, and one of your (female) friends kept asking :
"Are you still with that girlfriend ?" and "Have you dumped your girlfriend yet ?"

Would you find that annoying, inappropriate and/or offensive ?

Marriage is like a hardcore version of a relationship, so imagine how you would feel about the above scenario and multiply it by say.... 4

Then, you will have arrived at your answer to this question.



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19 Jul 2013, 6:24 pm

Because that's the equivilant of asking "Is he still putting up with your crazy ass?"


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19 Jul 2013, 6:31 pm

OliveOilMom wrote:
Because that's the equivilant of asking "Is he still putting up with your crazy ass?"



;-) ooooOOOoooh.
I never even thought of that, but you're completely right.

As in....
"holy crap.... you're STILL married ? Seriously ?? You ????"

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19 Jul 2013, 6:51 pm

EmberEyes wrote:
nick007 wrote:
I think others covered why she regards it as offensive but I'm wondering if the wife ask him if he's still single or has he gotten a girlfriend ye. Those questions are gnerally acceptable in NT land coming from friends you don't talk to much as part of general conversation but some say that in a negative way to be a b!tch. It can be hard for us Aspies to understand all those types of differences.

Actually, that is a valid point.
One more hypthetical I can think of why he ask is if the wife has been telling him about her realtionship problems & how it may come to divorce of that she suspects he'll divorce her otr that she thinks she'll be divorcing him


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