why don't people want to find true love anymore?

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22 Jul 2013, 9:59 pm

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so I just read this article about how less people are getting married and more are staying single. It just feels so wrong that no one wants to find their true love and spend their lives together.


So that's quite a can worms to open.. :P

In a way that's almost a movie concept that doesn't reflect real life. You don't really have that kind of love unless you're in a relationship so from a practical point of view it's better to focus on relationships. Also it's hard to say if people stay single out of choice. I'm not saying what you say is wrong I'm just saying maybe it's not all that clear.

The people I hear say they don't want relationships or to be married or anything like that usually end up contradicting themselves in some way or another even if it's just changing their views over time. Like I knew a bloke who contradicted himself by saying that he was attracted to a woman because "she takes good care of her kids". Which is strange from someone who "doesn't want any of that". So I think wanting relationships is a natural human thing that people can't "turn off" even if they want to.

I heard an interesting view from a guy who worked as a psychologist once. The basic concept is that apparently it's only true love if both people still love eachother after 18 months of being together. I can't verify that and I'm not sure if it's true but it's an interesting idea even if it's not a very assuring or likable idea.



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22 Jul 2013, 10:03 pm

it is a distinct possibility, that love is a matter of will.



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22 Jul 2013, 10:20 pm

lasirena wrote:
Sex is more fun.


NO, Designing signal modulation circuits is much more fun!

... oh my, low mu pentode/triode envelope valve, you glow so radiantly! You're also SO HOT!! ! (250C+) due to blackbody radiation. I think I want to stick my 1/4" TRS jack into your variable impedance loaded input... tee hee! 8)


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22 Jul 2013, 10:58 pm

I was with a lambda-diode regenerative receiver last night, and boy, was she HOT! All that negative resistance coupled with the harmonic oscillations ... I had to ride the dampening control just to maintain coherence ...

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22 Jul 2013, 11:03 pm

Fnord wrote:
I was with a lambda-diode regenerative receiver last night, and boy, was she HOT! All that negative resistance coupled with the harmonic oscillations ... I had to ride the dampening control just to maintain coherence ...

:twisted:


Ohhhhh, get me a heatsink and some conductive paste. All this superheated ionic nasty-ness is going to make my BJT's thermal runaway!! ! :lol:

I think this may be a FET-ish!! ! hoihoihoi


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22 Jul 2013, 11:07 pm

I knew I was in love when I saw the glow of her 12AU7 ... balanced triodes ... capacitively neutralised ... a real Class A broadband ...



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22 Jul 2013, 11:10 pm

Fnord wrote:
I knew I was in love when I saw the glow of her 12AU7 ... balanced triodes ... capacitively neutralised ... a real Class A broadband ...


A be-a-ut for sure... but I prefer a lady with 300B's :wink:


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22 Jul 2013, 11:15 pm

You seem biased; but as long as she's not bipolar...

(I expect some kind of reactance from that one!)



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22 Jul 2013, 11:24 pm

is this going to become an SET thread?



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22 Jul 2013, 11:25 pm

As long as Im not too positive; otherwise she'll be a real hothead... hair won't be the only thing red! :(


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22 Jul 2013, 11:27 pm

auntblabby wrote:
is this going to become an SET thread?


We could make it a push-pull affair as well!! ! :wink:


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22 Jul 2013, 11:28 pm

turn on the A/C, it's getting hot in here.



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22 Jul 2013, 11:31 pm

auntblabby wrote:
turn on the A/C, it's getting hot in here.


Yeah... may have to bring in the KT120's for this one. 8)


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22 Jul 2013, 11:49 pm

1. You don't get to decide what's right for other people.
2. Staying single is not the same as "only knowing how to hate", and equating the 2 is kind of ridiculous.
3. Noone is obligated to want a relationship to ease YOUR loneliness.
4. Not wanting a relationship isn't selfish. I'd say it's pretty selfish to want people to be totally focussed on finding someone just because YOU are lonely, though.


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23 Jul 2013, 2:21 am

Its also possible to have true love without ,marriage vows.
Many people choosing not to bother with traditional marriage might be skewing the statistics.



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23 Jul 2013, 3:23 am

Marriage statistics tend to be used more than survey samples of people that have had or do have relationships in general.
Interesting thought, Keni.