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LeLetch
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30 Sep 2013, 2:17 am

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

Aspie guys keep overthinking here while they should more working in getting the golden trio that increases attractiveness by 300%: A job, an apartment and a car.

And a good body by going to the gym, that makes it a golden four.

I figured we already has a golden trio + gym thread *shrug*.

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30 Sep 2013, 2:19 am

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

Do you sh** money?

More or less.

I mean I'm not rich but if a girl is honestly expecting to me pick up a miserable 9 to 5 somewhere just so I can take her on a vacation then I'm probably better off forever alone.

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30 Sep 2013, 2:21 am

Rigor wrote:

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

Do you sh** money?

More or less.

I mean I'm not rich but if a girl is honestly expecting to me pick up a miserable 9 to 5 somewhere just so I can take her on a vacation then I'm probably better off forever alone.

You have your own business you mean, that equals job or even better.

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30 Sep 2013, 2:22 am

metaldanielle wrote:

being in a relationship is how I learned what overthinking does to romance even though it might be less applicable. Everytime I overthink something, it causes problems.

Basically, I agree w/ u, and that is why.

I knows. Thinking wins VS Love. That's why my chess club is full of highly ranked bitter old men. Welcome to team Letch. Or... MetalLetch.

Its a giant robot version of me with laser beam eyes, that shoot love.

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30 Sep 2013, 2:24 am

reasons why I am unmatchable [until recently]

*no transmission/reception of body language
*odd aspie speech and preferences/perseverations
*mild tourettes
*schizoid flights of fancy
*not conventionally attractive
*omega
*no experience

I wonder if my list of turn-off traits is shared by a lot or a few other aspies.

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30 Sep 2013, 2:24 am

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

Rigor wrote:

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

Do you sh** money?

More or less.

I mean I'm not rich but if a girl is honestly expecting to me pick up a miserable 9 to 5 somewhere just so I can take her on a vacation then I'm probably better off forever alone.

You have your own business you mean, that equals job or even better.

Honestly, sh*****g money describes it better than business. :lol:

Let's just chalk it all up to a very kind late relative that I'm forever in debt to.

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30 Sep 2013, 2:26 am

auntblabby wrote:

*schizoid flights of fancy

You're gonna have to explain this one.

And you're far too kind and authentic to be omega. Omegas are those misogynistic shitstains on askmen and barstool sports.

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30 Sep 2013, 2:27 am

Rigor wrote:

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

Do you sh** money?

More or less.

I mean I'm not rich but if a girl is honestly expecting to me pick up a miserable 9 to 5 somewhere just so I can take her on a vacation then I'm probably better off forever alone.

Do you THINK you're better off alone?
Do you FEEL you're better off alone?

I think we assume the thinking side is correct. I disagree. An emotion is always true, to the person having it. Very hard to dismiss.

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30 Sep 2013, 2:28 am

LeLetch wrote:

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

I figured we already has a golden trio + gym thread *shrug*.

I believe this is #1 problem for 90% of aspie guys here and not lack of social skills.

Social skills work for players, for pub/club and getting laid scenarios - for serious relationships the golden...Four (Looks/body, job, house and a car) is waaay more important.

Social skills are too overrated here, lost561 had a point on that.

Think of your *male* school/college colleagues who are married now, were they all smooth talkers who had extraordinary social skills?

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30 Sep 2013, 2:31 am

LeLetch wrote:

Rigor wrote:

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

Do you sh** money?

More or less.

I mean I'm not rich but if a girl is honestly expecting to me pick up a miserable 9 to 5 somewhere just so I can take her on a vacation then I'm probably better off forever alone.

If spending half my day in total misery for the sake of some unseen boss is all I'm good for in a relationship... then both.

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30 Sep 2013, 2:31 am

Rigor wrote:

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

Rigor wrote:

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

Do you sh** money?

More or less.

I mean I'm not rich but if a girl is honestly expecting to me pick up a miserable 9 to 5 somewhere just so I can take her on a vacation then I'm probably better off forever alone.

You have your own business you mean, that equals job or even better.

Honestly, sh*****g money describes it better than business. :lol:

Let's just chalk it all up to a very kind late relative that I'm forever in debt to.

Umm.... I am not sure whether you're entrepreneur or freelancer or thief lol

but what about the other things?

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30 Sep 2013, 2:32 am

LeLetch wrote:

metaldanielle wrote:

If you had a robot that shot love, ppl here would be paying you to shoot them. That would be awkward.

Does this team have a mascot? or is it the robot?

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30 Sep 2013, 2:34 am

auntblabby wrote:

This is a heck of a list. Maybe your partner is dumb.
Maybe you love your partner.
Maybe thinking is bad and you should stick with the love part like you're doin', and keep settin' a good example. It seems to be working out swell.
Welcome to team Letch... well... you were already on this team since getting hooked up

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30 Sep 2013, 2:34 am

Rigor wrote:

auntblabby wrote:

*schizoid flights of fancy

You're gonna have to explain this one. And you're far too kind and authentic to be omega. Omegas are those misogynistic shitstains on askmen and barstool sports.

thank you mr. rigor

when I was a little kid in school, the school shrinks [at least two] said I was either schizotypal or schizoid, I know this because both of them left their notes out where I could read them. as such I tend to retreat for extended periods into elaborate fantasy worlds, even when sitting some place in public, expecially in public to escape from the hubbub. I have this expression of absorption [I guess that is the right word] on my face when i'm in my private world, during which people have distracted me and asked me if I was alright. as for my omegaman status, I learned that when I was in the army, and I was repeatedly told "you'll never even make corporal!" in fact they only promoted me to specialist [one grade below corporal- specialist is a glorified private, btw] only because the law said they had to in 26 months. I was the last in my company to be so honored. :roll:

I lack leader genes, supervisor genes, whatever you call it when you are able to persuade [by force of personality] other people to do one's bidding. so omega I am. I've had 5+ decades to come to terms with this. it is the way god made me. and being kind to people makes me feel good inside so there is a selfish motive to be honest.

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30 Sep 2013, 2:36 am

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

Rigor wrote:

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

Rigor wrote:

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

Do you sh** money?

More or less.

I mean I'm not rich but if a girl is honestly expecting to me pick up a miserable 9 to 5 somewhere just so I can take her on a vacation then I'm probably better off forever alone.

You have your own business you mean, that equals job or even better.

Honestly, sh*****g money describes it better than business. :lol:

Let's just chalk it all up to a very kind late relative that I'm forever in debt to.

Umm.... I am not sure whether you're entrepreneur or freelancer or thief lol

but what about the other things?

None of the above. :lol:

I have a car and my own place. I don't work out as often as I should, but I found out Wednesday (at the doctor's) that over the past year and a half I somehow managed to lose 30 pounds without dieting or doing much strenuous exercise. So if I did take it more seriously, maybe I'd stop looking like Jonah Hill.

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30 Sep 2013, 2:36 am

LeLetch wrote:

This is a heck of a list. Maybe your partner is dumb.

she most certainly is NOT. :hmph:

LeLetch wrote:

Maybe you love your partner.

she is the first person outside of family I was able to love. :heart:

because she accepted me just as I am. :mrgreen:

LeLetch wrote:

Maybe thinking is bad and you should stick with the love part like you're doin', and keep settin' a good example. It seems to be working out swell. Welcome to team Letch... well... you were already on this team since getting hooked up

glad to join up :hail:

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