Should I give internet dating a shot?

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This is my experience also.

I'm not desperate (probably weird though), I'm female and I love dating websites. OkCupid especially. I've met some great people from that site. I am older, but I started meeting people online (through chat rooms at first) since I was about 17. I went to my high school formal with a guy I met online He was really cute too and other girls tried to steal him, haha.

I say, it can't hurt to try. Why not just put up a profile and see what happens?

Edit: Oh cool, you made one. Have fun!

remember to message girls, dont expect them to message you all the time

Build a kick ass computer, you will have more fun on it and in the long run, it will help towards finding a stable IT job which will be more important in the long run.

Not having a car won't hurt your chances, If girls like you, the car thing shouldn't be a big deal unless she's a gold digger.

My experience so far has been quite bad. I thought that this is it, something for the people who are better with technology. But there are a lot of drawbacks to internet dating. You have to come up with a description which accurately describes you but then what do you include? What should / should not go in there?

Also then, you being the guy, you are the initiator in the relationship. So you have to write pms and contact girls and hope they respond. This is a difficult thing to do and is a journey paved with failure. Did she ignore your pm because she just wasn't interested or should you adjust the pm for next time to take new things into account? If so what are they? She didn't bother to reply after all.

Others have said that you need to contact hundreds of women. This means overcoming your fear or talking to woman after woman until you find the right girl. This is tough and in the past I did just give up on that. I contacted about 5-10 girls but after that I just deactivated my account. I think I will give it a go again some other time though now that I know what I'm getting myself into.

P.s. If you are feeling emotional and alone this is the worst time to sign up. Wait until you feel balanced and calm and decide then whether this is the right choice.

IMO, the things that should go in there are the things that you feel prospective dates should know and should judge you based on. I put "good" and "bad" stuff in mine, because I include what I think really encapsulates who I am. I want someone to message me based on that, not on some impressive half-truths I have come up with (or a bunch of irrelevant cliches).

So with that in mind, it's pretty easy for me to write a profile.

I am thinking to give it a shot in the head - the internet dating I mean, not my head.

I've tried internet dating and it didn't really work for me. The first woman wanted to remain friends and basically never messaged me and was misleading me, and the second cancelled because of my Asperger's. Then again, a close minded harlot like her isn't worth my time.

I used a saturation strategy for internet dating sites. Write one, initial contact note, then copy and paste send it to anyone you find even remotely interesting. I seemed to get about 20% response rate with about 5% resulting in actual meetings and a scant few leading to second dates.

I had a steady GF in about 2 months and we got married about a year later.

I'm glad that method worked for you!

I never ever respond to messages that look like copy & pastes. I guess up to 80% of other women feel the same, but 20% can be a lot of women depending on how "remotely" you go on the "interesting".

My definition of "remotely interesting" would be someone not too far off in age that did not appear to be evil or had some issue that could be problematic at a later date.

Anyway...

My messages weren't 100% copy and paste. Right after I'd paste it, I'd open the recipients profile in another window and spend a few minutes editing in more personalized details to the master copy.

For instance: in the master copy there was the question: "what is your pet's name?" I'd edit the word "pet" to the appropriate animal (dog, cat, goldfish) or strike the sentence if it appeared she didn't have any pets.

So even though they were copy and paste, no two were the same.

The real challenge was chatting with 4 women at once. The dates were a trip. I couldn't let the lunch meeting go too long and foul up the dinner meeting. 3-5 meetings a weekend some times.