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I really would have liked an Aspie GF but so far every girl on the spectrum that gets close to me or has expressed interest in me has given me nothing but grief, confusion or a headache. If an Aspie girl feels up to the challenge I wouldn't rule them out but I'm not actively seeking an Autistic/AS girl or a girl from WP for that matter. No offence, just not had good experience and if it were this time nearly 2 years ago they wouldn't have had good experiences with me either.

I'm used to dealing with NT people on an almost daily basis. Most of the people I know have several people in their lives they accommodate for and it's expected of them to give their significant other the most attention. Having said that, I can kind of see what you mean now. Yeah, I wanted to say I care about and look out for my friends and family, and I don't leave things half-done in general. Obviously if I had a GF I'd be more committed to them and I kinda wanted to portray that, too. Now that you mention it I don't know if I got that part of my profile right at all. Will have to think it over.

Don't worry OP. I always read things in a "weird" way that nobody else does. I am sure nobody else who reads your profile will read it like that. I am sorry if I have made you paranoid about it now! The other ladies commenting seem to think it's absolutely fine. In any case, since you're looking for an NT lady,she will not be put off by the implication that you have other people in your life, but will be attracted to the idea, so it's all good.

I liked your profile! You sound very friendly and down to earth and I love that. I hope you find the perfect girl!

Thanks Soccer I hope so too! I think in the past I tried too hard to fill out a profile and it came out real bad, possibly forced.
This time round it took me hardly any time at all and I think it's because I said what I wanted to without overdoing it or overthinking it.

@Molly okay lol I'll leave it as it is.

I think your profile is boring, quite frankly.

Maybe that's the whole point of it - it doesn't discount you. But it doesn't exactly make you stand out, either.

'Suppose it depends what you want to do with it, really, and who you want to meet.

If I was a woman (and that's a scary thought), and I got bombarded with stacks of messages, would I reply to yours based on your profile?

That all depends on what you find interesting, octobertiger. What do you think is lacking?

I removed the income bit. I earn just over 20k converted to dollars and being my pedantic self I put 20-30k in US dollars. I don't think everyone that views my profile is gonna be that perceptive and they'll probably think I earn £20,000 in English money which is IMO a lot of money for a younger person. Thanks, Tea!

@Boo
Yeah, I'd rather girls that are similar to me push forward instead of trying to say things that don't interest me in order to get "any" girl.
Filtering out people is a good thing. It makes you happier with the people that bother.

It's not really about me, and what I find interesting, is it.

I agree to an extent, it's all relative to what someone finds interesting. And there are a hundred and one ways to look at it.

For me, it's just lacking that...sparkle, you know, a little touch of creativity. Say a woman had looked at 20 profiles in a row. Is there anything about yours that would stand out?

It comes over casual, which is I suppose what you want. But perhaps just slightly too casual. Do you sound fun?

I think if you're looking for an average, boring relationship then great, not getting many dates, having to send lots and lots of messages - great, you've (probably) got the profile for that. Don't get me wrong, I don't hate it, it's just a bit - meh. I think you've got guts for posting your profile here, though.

Perhaps it is lacking a spark, man. End of the day, I'd rather be humble and say it how it is. I'd rather not constantly be trying to impress someone with rubbish jokes and "random" behaviour/stories under the pretense I'm more interesting than I am. I think you see my profile as boring, because the kind of girls you are into will find it boring as well. Would I be right in thinking you'd be after girls probably younger than me? I don't mind someone younger but I'm not really game for someone that's too immature. A little bit of immaturity is cute and keeps things fun, but too much and I am reduced to just a plaything to pass their time with risk of being tossed aside once they're bored.

Also, I'm seeing a lot of average looking girls leaving their profile up as "Seeing Someone". Some of them by the looks of it still reply to people. Just a question......Why?! Maybe it's just the place I live....there must be a huge upgrade-culture here. Quite saddening. Oh well!

Whoa.

I'm giving you another perspective on your profile (and not you, or who you are) - that's all it is. If you don't agree with it, fine. Perhaps you should have posted your profile in the Haven.

Who said anything about rubbish jokes and "random" behaviours and stories?

Look, I'd rather say something and you disagree than just pat you on the head and tell you what you want to hear. I thought this thread wasn't about that. I thought you welcomed feedback - simple as!

Your conclusion of what I am 'after' is bizarre. If you want to be personal, fine, be personal. I'm not being.

No no, nothing personal. I'm just trying to understand.
I actually agree it might be a bit "simple", perhaps too casual.
I was merely making an assumption/theory that if you found it boring it would mostly be boring to the girls you'd like to attract (which might not be the same kinds I want). Sorry if you felt I was bashing your personal tastes or getting personal in any way. I guess things like mood and tone are lost in translation over text

Shake hands boys, and kiss each other.

No homo (as long you're not shaking something else), guys kiss each other on cheeks in my culture.

Yes, text can be a problem. I write in a sometimes very pompous and commanding style, too, so hey. You don't need to apologise, it's cool.

OK, let's just say we were 'friends' in real life. Humour me, if you will.

If I had really bad breath (from all the gazelle I eat), would you tell me I had bad breath and it was repelling people, or would you try and spare my feelings?

Now, the analogy is not really about fact/opinion (and this is opinion we are talking about, whereas bad breath is a more quantifiable thing) - it's the notion of what is really helpful.

To be fair, the profile that you put up, yes it has to reflect who you are (can that ever really be reflected accurately anyway?) - but what you are looking for. The more precisely you know what you are looking for, the better, if you are looking for 'the one' - which you might not be, anyway. If you are a intelligent, creative person, for instance - I would say it would come out in the style of writing, rather than what you are writing about.