How to use OKCupid (from an actual success story.)

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Ah, that's useful to know! I'll check my emails see if I got anything about that.
Also, there's a way to circumvent paying for name changes and inbox. Just make 2 accounts, and if you're really feeling cheeky say on the other one that you had to make a 2nd account because your inbox filled up anyways I'm going off topic!

The information was a mixture of useful, creative and restating what should be obvious but probably isn't to some.

Finally, a useful thread.

I think someone's pants are a little too tight in all the wrong areas today...

Thanks. That was what I was going for.

The prevailing wisdom on this board seems to be to treat dating like it's some kind of numbers game. It's why they use terms like "market value" and argue statistics. My advice isn't about getting the largest number of women possible to show interest, it's about presenting yourself in a way that the right people (even if it's a comparitvely small fraction of the dating population) take notice.

Most girls aren't compatible with Aspie traits and certainly wouldn't be able to handle a relationship with one of us. But based on the numerous other success stories on this board alone, there are plenty that are. This thread is about appealing to those types.........

Taking things personally is a sign of a guilty conscience. Then again, maybe those pants are just pinchy...

It's obvious he's talking to me. It doesn't take Albert Einstein to figure that one out.

No. "they" was correct. You're hardly the first person I've seen on this board who thinks this way. There's nothing special about your "research findings" either. I've heard it all before from people who could argue it much better than you can.

I hope you continue using the . It's a noticable improvement over your normal posting quality.

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I'm gonna agree with the idea of looking for a relationship is to be yourself. Who you really are comes out after a while anyway and there is no hiding it at that point.

There is a lot of media posted online on how to be more attractive to the opposite sex. The problem with it is that I find I would have to sacrifice my core values and beliefs as well as create a fake personality in order to succeed. As for being Aspie as well, the mask slips much quicker than it does for NT's. I can't keep up with that.

As for picking up the way I did earlier in the year... I found being present in that moment and clearminded worked for that quite well. It ended up being ridiculously easy to figure out who was attracted or not. I could sense it immediately upon making eye contact with quite a few people. And I did take advantage of this as well.

So, for relationships, you have to know as soon as possible if you want a relationship or f**kbuddy with someone. Most girls I meet know the difference in how men behave when they just want sex or relationship. Lack of identity ends up confusing people and no one likes dealing with confusion.

this advice doesn't work for wimin. Because as a female, you are not supposed to be weird, stroppy, have communication issues, want to be alone, want to do your own thing, accidentally inconsiderate and any number of other things you can dress up to basically say geek. Nobody wants girl geeks. Unless they are hot. If you are hot you can have a personality of a cheese grater and it you'll still get people wanting to get into your pants.

Wine has been had. Hell Rage barely in check.

Uh... why would I want to waste my time with someone that can't accept I don't fall into the societal stereotype of what a woman is supposed to be?

I say the advice is pretty much accurate for both males and females. Unless, of course, you want to play act for an entire relationship.

While I'm mainly addressing dudes. I see no reason most of my advice can't also apply to women. I'm dating an Aspie who's OKC handle was "NerdyGirl42" so at the very least I can say first hand that bolded statement is false.

I'd say your biggest problem (other than cripplingly low self-esteem) is that most guys who want "geek girls" are just as socially awkward and shy as you are........or they're hipsters (in which case stay away.)

^ I've only just noticed you have a budgie on your hat!

I stand corrected. I really thought all nerdy girls were single or having to settle in some way. I'm very glad that I am wrong on that account.

Shame about my crippling self esteem though, any ideas how I could fix that?

You mean, it's possible to have relationships where this isn't necessary!?!?!?!?!?