My boyfriend is angry because I made an account on here

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LOL yes I am a teen, we are perfect most of the time, he is my best friend anyway so I wouldn't ever run, not even by some awful chance we broke up

For anyone telling her to run away over this trivial thing (yes, a moment of jealousy is a trivial thing, read JM's post to understand why it happened):

Zip it and mind your own business you losers behind the screens instead of spitting venom and attempting to wreck lasting relationships.

By deactivating your Wrong Planet account and never coming back.


Too bad that ain't happinin

THANK YOU!! !! !! !
I agree trivial, every relationship will have fights and disputes, even friendships, it's normal and it's fine as long as you can work things out and communicate

What you can't do is to not want to attract attention. You're craving it, that's for sure.

Well, everyone gets insecure from time to time. It can be difficult for a guy who is dating someone who is perceived to be attractive and is happy discussing sexuality etc.

It also could scare him that you might reveal intimate details about your relationship together. Especially if he is a private person. This has happened at least once since I've been here, and it didn't make pretty reading.

I'd try and talk about the deeper fears he would have. You may come out a much stronger couple.

Of course, noone owns anybody and you're not married...you are free to do as you please.

JM has said some really wise stuff. Sometimes one could wonder why we have this chaotic section - his posts here are the answer to that.

What are you implying?

That's not fair, is everyone else on these forums craving attention too because they make posts and post pictures?

You don't even know me, I was troubled by an argument in my relationship and needed advice, I don't crave attention, I was craving advice, help and support.

Socialising and relationships are hard for me as I'm sure they are for most people on here.

Thank you yes I do agree, I don't always know what is appropriate to talk about and what isn't, I'm sure other people experience this.
Just an honest question, what were the intimate details I shared? (so I know what I should keep private in future)

When I was in high school there was this couple in my class, they hooked up when they were 16 and stayed together right until we graduated. To this day I do not understand why they were together or why they stayed together that long. It never made sense to me. As soon as we graduated, they broke up.

Sometimes you hook up with people who are essentially your friends and then it becomes impossible to move on when you need to. I'm not saying that's the case here. I'm just saying. Symptoms exist for a reason.

Oh, let me clarify. When I said that this happened at least once, I don't mean that you were the poster who did it. I don't want to say anymore, some things should be left buried.

What you can't do is to not want to attract attention. You're craving it, that's for sure.

The poster of this perhaps could realise that, in a way, all communication could be seen as a 'cry for attention'. I think it's important to come away from our own standards sometimes, and try not to always impose our standards of behaviour on everybody else.

Symptoms? Maybe yes, maybe no - it depends. When it comes down to it, only two people really know the score here - and if they don't open up and talk about what the 'real' issue is (NOT on this website!), then one could speculate endlessly.

Also, it depends how one views a relationship. AHA - thread idea.

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I don't think that poster was trying to impose his or her standards, I think they were just making an observation. According to what other people have posted including the OP, I reckon it's a fair assessment.

when we start assigning value to the 'craving of attention', that's when standards will come into play. For now, nobody has given it a value. Call it cry for help and it's the same thing dressed in socially acceptable clothes.

I did read JM's post. Did you read mine? I said that if they're teens then it's just teen behavior, but I'd still consider running. She then said they're teens, which means my advice is that it's just teen behavior but if I were in her shoes, I'd still consider running.

I think jealousy is normal but jealousy over joining a forum about autism seems a bit strange to me, that's all. It sounds like she was using this forum for things other than autism discussion though? Am I correct on that? Looks like she was feeling a bout of insecurity and searching for compliments which means that her boyfriend isn't making her feel good about herself and that's not good. Just my opinion. Let's not get nasty, Boo. It's not nice to call people losers. This is a forum for supporting each other, not name calling and putting people down.

What does that even mean? Do we need to start defining our variables explicitly in each post?

OP asked for advice. What the heck are we supposed to do other than speculate?

Yes. join the club. In general, you need to be wary of talking openly about issues concerning other people because they may not want other people to know about their personal issues. Such as your boyfriend may be feeling like you have betrayed his trust by talking about your and his problems on the board or whatever. Octobertiger was very correct when he said it's best that you two discuss this in private properly.

However, I too find it difficult to know what is the right and wrong thing to talk about. One of my special interests is death, so you can imagine how popular I can be at tea time at work.
The other day I had an in depth conversation about poo. I wish less things in life were taboo, small talk is so boring, I don't know how NTs can stand it most of the time.

You really are being pedantic (how dare you make me think)

I said 'speculate endlessly', not 'speculate'. That wasn't me killing debate.

Instead of speculating, I could always get my clothes out of the washing machine, for instance. There's one suggestion.

In the other post, och where is it

The poster of this perhaps could realise that, in a way, all communication could be seen as a 'cry for attention'. I think it's important to come away from our own standards sometimes, and try not to always impose our standards of behaviour on everybody else.

The second sentence is a wider comment, and not necessarily aimed at anyone in particular. Maybe I should make that clearer.

Soccer22 has made a lovely point about support, and I think that would be a good plan.

Can you explain this, please?