Question for aspergers women

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Last few times I was physically assaulted, I didnt have issues taking the risc of getting a smack. Good thing of an sh***y father, you know that smacks dont kill you. Being a Sissy, seems more to be a bully thing, because accidentally until now noone ever decided to bully me when my partner was around. They only think to have discovered their balls, if they think to confront an easy victim.

i would lose a fist fight against an 8th grader.

No, and I am always utterly offended when my male friends try and do this because I feel it disempowers me as a human being.

In usual circustmances, the male bully doesn't react to a girl verbally confronting him in the same way a physically-weaker-guy verbally confronting him, the latter would get smacked and no one around would jump to help him.

But if the same bully in the same school/college/club even appears is going physical or threatening on the girl, a dozen of guys around would go for the rescue. I am not saying this is wrong, that's the right thing to do...but sadly guys don't go that heroic if the victim is male.
I know this is true because I've seen both scenarios a lot, and i've experienced the 1st too.

I would be horrified. I'd much rather be with a man who will encourage me to believe that I am brave enough to fight my own battles and who will let me make my own decision which battles I wish to fight.

Thank you for not responding to my thread with disrespectful posts. I grant you permission to speak on behalf of the women you've dated with aspergers and their preferences in these situations.

Now the reason behind your attitude in your posts is so clear as to why you hate men.

Last edited by lost561 on 21 Oct 2013, 10:12 am, edited 1 time in total.

Why are you only interested in the views of women with Asperger's?

I don't think this has anything to do with neurology. The vast majority of the women I know are NT, and I can't say that any of them would appreciate a guy being confrontational or aggressive on their behalf.

It might not have anything to do with neurology. I'm guessing it has to do with looks to be honest. Please do some YouTube videos with your friends and post them here with some interviews on these subjects.

Looks?!

Well, I suppose some particularly stupid, violent men do have a certain look about them if you know what you're looking for. Others can pass for normal until they suddenly start bellowing, "You spill my pint?!"

And no, I'll not be making any videos for you.

Yes, I do. I like that.

HOWEVER, he should not be short tempered.

So not only you want to see the pic of every WP member, you want to see their acquaintances too.

No, my Dad is a very reasonable non-confrontational person. I remember someone trying to have an argument with him once and he totally defused the situation with logic and the other person ran out of steam and walked away.

I want a man like that. I like kind, peaceful people.

Have you seen 500 days of Summer? Some guy makes sleazy remarks to Summer in a bar and the main character (Tom) sticks up for her, but this makes her angry with him as she thought it was best not to waste energy on the jerky guy and was annoyed that Tom thought she couldn't stand up for herself. This is how I feel.

On the other hand, if one of us has a problem with our food in a restaurant I don't expect him to complain for me, I'll do it myself, but I don't want to do the complaining for him if he has the problem. It's his problem and he should have the self-confidence to lodge a complain himself.

Those are vainies who I wont fight for lol.

(in fact I'd even make sure they receive punches themselves from the aggressors at that place if I can manage)

You can't expect random men you don't know personally in any way to go through hellfire and clean up your s**t just because you are female and therefore the center of the world (in your head at least).

Yes, I would like to have a man stand up for me, but not to be needlessly confrontational. I don't think physical confrontation is necessary, unless it's as self-defence. Most heated situations can be solved by simply walking away / not rising to taunts / ignoring the idiots.

I can't answer vague questions like that. The answer depends on the question. Be more specific. Did the guy bump into me on purpose? Was he trying to hurt me? Has he been following me around all night trying to get on my nerves or provoke a reaction out of my man? Is he drunk? Is he an ex boyfriend? Or is he just some random stranger?

Was the bump an accident? Did he apologise and stop to see if I was all right, or did he laugh and then walk away? Do you mean a verbal confrontation, or a physical one?

If the guy had bumped me on purpose, I would deal with it myself by asking him angrily: "hey, what did you do that for?"

If he didn't back down or apologise, I might go and tell one of the bouncers that some nasty man was bumping into me deliberately. I am sure they might kick him out. Or I might look to my boyfriend to go up to the man and say: "hey, what's your problem? That's my girlfriend you're bumping into. Leave her alone."

If the bump was not deliberate and the man apologised, there would be no need to make a big deal out of it at all (unless he had hurt me badly/ spilt a drink down me / accidentally torn my dress / broken my toenail / insert other imagined calamity here).

Actually something like this happened to me once when I was out in a nightspot on a first date and my ex was there. My ex became jealous to see me with a new guy, and came up and wanted to talk to me. I didn't want to talk to him and told him to go away so he grabbed me forcefully by the arm and kept me there. I was shouting angrily: "let go! You're hurting me! Ow! You're really hurting me" and lots of people were staring, but nobody was doing anything to help. My date just stood to the side and watched. He told me later that he had wanted to go and punch my ex in the face but he did not do anything "out of respect for me." I thought that was a weird way to respect a woman: stand aside and watch her have her arms bruised by a jerk. But maybe it was better for him not to intervene. In situations like that, if a second guy intervenes, the scenario can quickly escalate into a fist fight.

I don't like clubs, so that isn't applicable for me, lol.
In regard to him speaking for me, I'd prefer if he didn't.