First date talking points.

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Hee hee! I will have some cake, please. But that would mean actually approaching you and talking about a topic other than the weather. Do you think that's allowed?

Are we permitted to discuss the cherry content of the cake?

I'm hoping it's got cherries in it.

Is it a fruit cake?

Have I got that bad?

No, it's not a fruit cake. But it does have cherries in it.

Next guess.

What do you mean by "have you got that bad?" Do you mean you think you are a fruitcake?

Don't worry. You are not the fruitcake, silly! The fruitcake is on the plate!

Oh, I'm supposed to be guessing. OK I think it's a chocolate cake.

no Molly, I've got 20 years worth of examples, those two were off the top of my head of recent ones. Americans like to boast and paying for the date is a man's way of showing off how well he is doing and that he da man In the UK people go out of their way to avoid paying for their round. When I first got off the boat* and saw that I thought I'd died and gone straight to hell. Where I come from (and it ain't USA), people practically have fist fights over who picks up the bill - you show your appreciation for the other person by insisting on paying. Of course, everything has evened out with the internet and age but it's a huge massive enormous divergence in terms of accepted social values.

In the UK any sort of showing off is seen as unseemly so appearing to be tight with money fits that very nicely. Within that, people are allowed to be generous if they want to be. And if it's good for their tax write off.

I find cultural differences fascinating so I'm sorry, but you will keep hearing me generalising left right and centre. Of course, I realise these are generalisations and will be more than happy to consider each specific case on it's own merit. However, when discussing generic approaches to subjects, such as what is a done thing on a first date, it's really difficult not to think and speak in generalisations.

Don't aks me where I am from. I ain't sayin' nuffink

*metephor

*me* Hands leafplant with Nitrogen, followed by Sulfur, Phosphorus, Iron, Potassium, Manganese and Zinc.

^ I see, Leafplant. Thank you for the explanation.

Stalk: what?

Octobertiger, I've just realised that if the cake has cherries in it, it can't be chocolate. Silly me. Is it a carrot cake?

Yum yum. My second favourite cake is carrot cake with cream cheese icing. My absolute favourite cake is walnut and cherry cake, also with cream cheese icing.

(end cake hijack - resume dating thread)

Are you from Japan?

Scottish men are more generous than English men I think.

*face palm*

Assuming we're going to believe stereotypes and generalisations, one of the untrue stereotypes of Scottish people is that they're stingy with their money.

Often children ask me where I'm from, and I always tell them: from my mummy's tummy.

Not in Northern Ireland.

Also, it depends on the age of the people involved, and the region - and the group you're in. I've never had anyone be mean about their round in Yorkshire, for instance. I see a difference between the Sarf and 'oop North.



Yep, same here. And I know English people who are like this - and some British Asians who are like that, too.

Molly - seriously?

Why the face palm?

I practically said Scottish men are not stingy. (Based on my limited interactions with them)

Silly me! It was a chocolate cake with cherries in it all along!

Now that would be a good way to succeed on a first date. Instead of going to a formal restaurant with fancy food nobody wants to eat, go to a nice relaxed cake shop. Yum, yum.

^ philistines

Black Forest Gateau

No, it comes from Europe, not the Philippines. You wally!

^ Sorry, Leafplant. I am not an expert in cakes. I only bake one kind of cake (my walnut and cherry one).

I am sorry. My silly brain read your sentence the wrong way round!

I read very fast and my brain often doesn't take in what it's reading. I suspect I may be hyperlexic, but still don't know enough about hyperlexia to know for sure. Either I'm hyperlexic or I'm just a precocious reader who is very impulsive and eagerly jumps in to say things far too hastily.

Edit: so now I'd better do a face palm at myself rather than at you.

*face palm*

Last edited by LogicalMolly on 09 Nov 2013, 5:09 pm, edited 2 times in total.

I bury my teeth in your walnut and cherry one