Feeling lonely thread

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Have a cookie.

School and university I may add, but you're absolutely totally right here. From Facebook I can tell most of the best-friends groups knew each other from school/university (some were colleagues of my own school/univ).

Making new friends in the adult life is way much harder, as if everyone has already established his own circle(s) of friends and it's so hard for anyone to penetrate this circle.

I made a lot of social effort to build 2 circles of friends recently after 7 years (and 7 years after graduation! not a coincidence) of almost zero social life outside work. The first group that I occasionally meet are of 4 girls 2 guys (well, I am friend with 2 girls in particular the other are more acquaintances) and they are a former date's (ex gf? not sure) main circle of friends. The other group with whom I more frequently hang out lately every weekend are formed of 2 girls 3 guys, those didn't know each other earlier, it started with a romantic interest of my part in one of the girls (but not anymore).

For the whole 2 groups, they are all above 26 years old and single, very very weird because being single isn't a requirement for friendship at all so I really wonder why all of us are single.

I'm pretty independent, but sometimes I just wish I had somebody else to take care of me. Not monetarily or anything like that, but emotionally and psychologically. I want somebody to tell me I'm important to them, that they need me in their life, and that they love me. I want to know that somebody outside of my family loves me. It's been suggested that maybe I go for a bit of short term counseling to help me learn how to deal with all of the loneliness I've been feeling lately. I'm debating whether or not to do it.

Never got the university experience I would have started it a few years after high school with my improved social skills but I am going with a tech school far better career wise but I might have at most 15 people in my class and most are much older then me.

I agree on the friend circle thing I wonder if it was different many years ago people now and days are so afraid to add anyone to a group already established.

I wouldn't say it is "too late" you're still only 24

It seems like the more you try to do the right things you get rewarded very later. But like you said. The guys that went for sex seem to have had success.

Try me, I'm 26, and I'm still awaiting my princess! But I am hopeful.

26 is still quite young. In my opinion.

I would prefer to be alone, then I could blaze down the motorway at 300kmh listening to highway star.

A gf would be nice though lol

I typed that? XD Yes, a GF would be nice for me, too.

I've always wondered that myself.

Day in and day out I feel stuck in a loop where I wake up, go to work, come home, go to bed and do it all over again. This current job gives me odd days off (tuesday and thursday), so my social life has been sacrificed by selling my soul to my job. Not being able to hang with my old college friends (They're miles away) or any of my old high school friends (I only have on friend, male, that I still talk to. Most of them went their own way or stabbed me in the back) is killing me, to the point where I can't even get enough motivation to get up and move. I'm not a bad looking person, I just know this situation isn't going to get better by doing nothing and giving up (accepting loneliness = giving up, which is not in my dictionary), but I can't find a way to break the barrier that is holding me back from being able to finally have a good relationship: ME.

I've had bad experiences that didn't work out in the past, and I refuse to go down those paths again. I'm afraid to get broken down again, but I'm afraid to even take the risk to try.

I'm just happy to post this thread to anybody who feels lonely.

Off topic, but Highway Star is the best driving song ever!

That is all.

You guys are way too young to be feeling this lonely. There's always someone out there for every person. I say this as a single person who hasn't been in a relationship in yeeeaaars. I don't have a lot of friends and am not very social, either. I find that if I work on my hobbies while being social, then the opposite sex is more interested. People like to see you being happy doing what you do.

From my perspective, one of the reasons why single women are more wary of dating lonely men is not because they don't find them attractive, or think that they are by any means less than anyone else. It is because a lot of the times a very lonely person who dreams of nothing but a relationship can spend so much time thinking about how the relationship should work that they forget to learn about the person they are beginning to date. They might think too highly of the person and fail to see them for their flaws and everything.
I had a guy friend who was very interested in me, and every girl he knew because he really wanted someone to love. I wasn't interested in him, though we hung out a lot. I noticed one by one as he started to see the girls for the flaws they had, he became disinterested in them or they in him, because there were too many preconceived notions about how things were going to be before they had even begun. He is well above average in attractiveness, has a good job and is very smart, but is so relationship goal oriented, that it makes him too nervous around women and he loses his 'game'. But I know, some day some girl is going to see him for who he is, and she's gunna be loved like no girl's been loved before.
He was really getting weird there for a while, but now that he's working more on his hobbies and school and stuff, having other things is evening him out a lot and I have high hopes for his love life.

So trust me when I say this, the best way to find someone is to work on a hobby that you love, but do it moderately socially. Then you are showing yourself for who you are, and not so much for your expectations. It gives you something to talk about from the start, and attracts like minded people. It's really hard for me to explain, I wish I could do a better job with it, but it's the truth I swear by it!

I just haven't found someone special, I guess....