So my GF cheated on me

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sorry to hear that shau. that's pretty sh***y.

Well it's kinda weird how "feeling feminine" seems to coincide with "feeling like s**t". Feminine seems to be a pretty bad emotion.

Sorry to hear about that, I really am. Did she have feelings for her ex all along? Did you know about it?
Personally, although it hasn't always been like this, I'd rather have my heart broken than be the bastard who breaks someone else's. or be so protective of myself that I put walls around me and stop trusting the people around me. Fulfilling relationships require vulnerability, and vulnerability entails risk, and this time it didn't work out. For what it's worth, you have now more experience, and are a better judge of character. Do you mind PM's? I am not an expert but I do know a few things. All in all, if you feel you can't trust people anymore that is normal, and if you want to give up for a while it's fine, but don't let that become who you are, happiness is not down that road.

I'm so sorry mate.

This is why I personally never get into a relationship with someone who just got out of one. I will date them or be friends with benefits but no relationship. It's too dangerous.

dude, she clearly wasnt worth it. And now u have the best reason and motivation in the world to never again give her a single moment of your life.

I probably wouldn't think about her again for the rest of my life.

not even trying either. It's like, worse than dead to me, she would cease to exist from the moment she did something like that. No crying, no emotion, she's not worth anything but waking up the next day with sun shining through the window and life ready to be lived again.

Its much better than realising she wasnt the kind of person u liked. Cheating is a more definite end to it than anything and in a way it's not that bad at all because there's no point wasting time on what ifs with a person like that and that is a massively good thing.

Really, i wish the last thing i was involved in had ended so definitely. Its such a better closure to know theres nothing at all worth salvaging and you can move on like it never existed.

people you dont care about cant hurt you.

Ehhhhh

I'm seeing this prospective new girl later on this week to nerd out with some Settlers of Cataan and Chess. She seems ok with me coming over to her place with it being just us alone as her flatmates are gone. Could be a good sign.

Either way, this is not exactly what a recovering misanthropist needs...I did perfectly right by her, even turned down a girl who was interested in sex while I was in a relationship with her, and she betrays my honorable deed with infidelity. It's the ultimate kick in the crotch.

In reality, she's probably one of those girls hopelessly drawn to playboys and needs a "nice guy" to mend her heart after it gets periodically shattered to pieces. I wouldn't doubt she's used many guys like this. Oh well, I know better now.

I'm so sorry to hear. You obviously deserve someone way better than her.

Hey there... Hope you hold up well. would have to agree with Leafplant, take the positives from this if you can. It sucks to have to deal with it, I know.

Anyway... one pointer I can give for dating experience is to remember what happened with each person you date and look for a pattern. Eventually, you'll come across the type of girl you attract, and in my case.. it was girls that didn't get over an ex yet (there were a few of them). I also observed that if I pushed too soon, the girl would pull away. Another pattern I observed was that the majority didn't know what they wanted either and would use that as an excuse to be with multiple partners. I got used to some pretty immature girls... and they sure didn't like feeling guilty either.

You were the rebound guy.