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20 Dec 2013, 5:02 pm

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

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Another pattern: a female user quickly accuses a male user of sexism because he stated some societal facts. ie. He: Most girls expect guys to ask them out. Her: You are sexist. While sexism means the belief of the superiority of one gender over another, the guy in this example didn't say anything that reflects such belief, he was just describing a common societal pattern.

Another pattern: everyone gets their panties in a bunch by taking everything too personally instead of calmly and dispassionately assessing the comments and addressing them in a most constructive way they are able to.

Oh hang on. you can't expect Arabs to be sensible. Obviously.

If a zoologist is describing the behavioral difference between lions and lionesses, that doesn't mean he/she believes lions are more superior than lionesses or vice-versa, she/he's just stating observations.

Should the zoologist lie and be blind enough and say wrong things like "oh...lionesses form harems, just like lions" too in order to not being accused of something?

Sometimes political correctness hit crazy levels here.

Person H: people are not lions you monkey!

PC is crazy in a lot of places. You either side step it, roll it with it or let it steamroll you. your choice.

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20 Dec 2013, 5:10 pm

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Person F: "Since the most common factor in all of your failed relationships is you, then maybe that's where you should start working on making basic improvements ... hygiene ... attitude ... employment ... education ... et cetera ..."

But again, you are not that person and (AFAIK) you don't have the same struggles with hygiene etc. I know a couple of highly intelligent Oxbridge people who can't leave the house, for example.

aspiemike: Indeed, that also happens!

hurtloam: I like your honesty. I think you're right, that the people who answer are genuinely curious and want to be able to answer and help out...though unfortunately it tends to fall on deaf ears. I guess though there are the lurkers.

Dhp: Did you mean to include the whole cycle in your response?

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I don't get why the people who stereotype get answered in the first place. It's as if people think they'll listen.

*cough* *splutter*

you never know smudgey pants, you never know :wink:

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20 Dec 2013, 5:24 pm

Person A: All women do this and that and expect this and that.

alternate Person B: Well actually I AM NOT this and that, so that proves the stereotype is 100% false and nobody else does it either.

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20 Dec 2013, 5:26 pm

^ Very good. In fact, I see alternate Person B's response more often.

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20 Dec 2013, 5:27 pm

smudge wrote:

Person A: All women do this and that and expect this and that.

Person B: Well actually I AM NOT this and that, and I expect differently.

Person C: You're just an exception. All women are like that otherwise.

Person D: Everybody is different in their preferences, you can't generalise!

Person A: OK. *Starts a new generalisation or continues existing one*

Person D: All you have to do is go out and meet people! That's how I did it, and if I can do it, so can you, even though I know nothing about you, or your circumstances or the people around you. Your symptoms will just magically disappear.

**Repeat**

Am I the only one who sees this pattern, and is bored of it? I'm sure I can't be. I don't get why the people who stereotype get answered in the first place. It's as if people think they'll listen.

You are also being sexist by reinforcing and implying the stereotype that aspie guys post such threads.

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20 Dec 2013, 5:33 pm

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

You are also being sexist by reinforcing and implying the stereotype that aspie guys post such threads.

OK.

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20 Dec 2013, 5:34 pm

smudge wrote:

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You are also being sexist by reinforcing and implying the stereotype that aspie guys post such threads.

OK.

Your OK is sexist too, I dunno why.

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20 Dec 2013, 5:40 pm

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

smudge wrote:

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

You are also being sexist by reinforcing and implying the stereotype that aspie guys post such threads.

OK.

Your OK is sexist too, I dunno why.

It's a female thing.

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20 Dec 2013, 5:42 pm

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

You are also being sexist by reinforcing and implying the stereotype that aspie guys post such threads.

Person H: "My boyfriend knows that when he stares at other girls' gimongous boobs it upsets me, but he does it anyway."

There ... that should balance things a bit.

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20 Dec 2013, 6:50 pm

Person I: PUA all the way. You should do this if you ever want to get laid.

Person J: What does he/she mean when he/she says this? What is this code for? Does this mean they want to break up with me? :scratch:

Of course there is also: I've tried everything, nothing works. What now? Do I just give up dating and finding love?

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20 Dec 2013, 7:55 pm

aspiemike wrote:

Of course there is also: I've tried everything, nothing works. What now? Do I just give up dating and finding love?

Don't get me started on Person J. Hidden meanings are always the death of me.

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20 Dec 2013, 8:21 pm

Meh, all I can say is since all life is based off of insanity, spirals, and other crazy quantum s**t, then people will think that doing the same thing over and over and over and over and over and over and over and over and over and over and over and over and over and over and over and over and over and over again will eventually yield some results. This can sometimes be instigated by the general notion of looking to where others have failed/succeeded and attempt to relate to them based off of being in a similar situation. Truth is either they will succeed or will just continue down the spiral.

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20 Dec 2013, 9:26 pm

I see a lot of weird patterns in communication. I just choose not to comment most of the time because why argue with someone who's made up their mind unless there's something to be gained from it?

There must be some reason, because people snatch at arguments like candy being thrown at a parade.

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21 Dec 2013, 5:17 am

The pattern is slightly more complicated than that because it's recursive.

Person E: I am sick of the same old crap on this forum, I'm going to make my own thread to complain about it.

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21 Dec 2013, 5:46 am

Person K: *posts something funny in relation to aforementioned thread*
Person L: *says something slightly inappropriate but still funny in response*

Nothing like a good thread derailment!

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21 Dec 2013, 5:49 am

Kezzstar wrote:

Person K: *posts something funny in relation to aforementioned thread*
Person L: *says something slightly inappropriate but still funny in response*

Nothing like a good thread derailment!

Like the gay porn post.

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