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06 Jan 2014, 10:40 pm
aspiemike wrote:
ah yes. She decided to dangle the preverbial carrot in front of you. I remember someone once bringing up the term "fallback guy" months back in one of my interesting scenarios.
It was obvious that she needed attention from you, and it probably happened when the other guy(s) weren't around since they were hiding out in their cave to deal with whatever problem that needed to be sorted out. Seeing she probably has little to no understanding of how men work herself, she decided she needed an ego boost... from you. You likely didnt make her feel rejected when these guys likely did make her feel that way. But of course, once these guys come back to pick up where they left off, it was time for her to get intimate again. You were oh so close, yet so far. I hate it when women do that.
The only thing that can be done is ask if in doubt "so are you interested in me, or not?" any answer that sounds like a "maybe" or a "no" (ie. "ummm... wellll.....") don't waste your time and move on.
Now from a guy's perspective. Very rarely will a girl say yes to you after you have rejected her and made her "just friends." The window of opportunity has likely passed when this happens. It is best to just let her know you like her and reassure her the second you know. Make it clear what your intentions are. But the majority of women I have met won't waste anymore time if it's clear things won't go anywhere as quickly as they would like.
It was obvious that she needed attention from you, and it probably happened when the other guy(s) weren't around since they were hiding out in their cave to deal with whatever problem that needed to be sorted out. Seeing she probably has little to no understanding of how men work herself, she decided she needed an ego boost... from you. You likely didnt make her feel rejected when these guys likely did make her feel that way. But of course, once these guys come back to pick up where they left off, it was time for her to get intimate again. You were oh so close, yet so far. I hate it when women do that.
The only thing that can be done is ask if in doubt "so are you interested in me, or not?" any answer that sounds like a "maybe" or a "no" (ie. "ummm... wellll.....") don't waste your time and move on.
Now from a guy's perspective. Very rarely will a girl say yes to you after you have rejected her and made her "just friends." The window of opportunity has likely passed when this happens. It is best to just let her know you like her and reassure her the second you know. Make it clear what your intentions are. But the majority of women I have met won't waste anymore time if it's clear things won't go anywhere as quickly as they would like.
Just for the record, guys do this, too ... I've been "on the hook" before. and I've seen many other women I know in that position. Once I recognized it for what it was, I swore I'd never do it again!
06 Jan 2014, 10:44 pm
Eureka13 wrote:
aspiemike wrote:
ah yes. She decided to dangle the preverbial carrot in front of you. I remember someone once bringing up the term "fallback guy" months back in one of my interesting scenarios.
It was obvious that she needed attention from you, and it probably happened when the other guy(s) weren't around since they were hiding out in their cave to deal with whatever problem that needed to be sorted out. Seeing she probably has little to no understanding of how men work herself, she decided she needed an ego boost... from you. You likely didnt make her feel rejected when these guys likely did make her feel that way. But of course, once these guys come back to pick up where they left off, it was time for her to get intimate again. You were oh so close, yet so far. I hate it when women do that.
The only thing that can be done is ask if in doubt "so are you interested in me, or not?" any answer that sounds like a "maybe" or a "no" (ie. "ummm... wellll.....") don't waste your time and move on.
Now from a guy's perspective. Very rarely will a girl say yes to you after you have rejected her and made her "just friends." The window of opportunity has likely passed when this happens. It is best to just let her know you like her and reassure her the second you know. Make it clear what your intentions are. But the majority of women I have met won't waste anymore time if it's clear things won't go anywhere as quickly as they would like.
It was obvious that she needed attention from you, and it probably happened when the other guy(s) weren't around since they were hiding out in their cave to deal with whatever problem that needed to be sorted out. Seeing she probably has little to no understanding of how men work herself, she decided she needed an ego boost... from you. You likely didnt make her feel rejected when these guys likely did make her feel that way. But of course, once these guys come back to pick up where they left off, it was time for her to get intimate again. You were oh so close, yet so far. I hate it when women do that.
The only thing that can be done is ask if in doubt "so are you interested in me, or not?" any answer that sounds like a "maybe" or a "no" (ie. "ummm... wellll.....") don't waste your time and move on.
Now from a guy's perspective. Very rarely will a girl say yes to you after you have rejected her and made her "just friends." The window of opportunity has likely passed when this happens. It is best to just let her know you like her and reassure her the second you know. Make it clear what your intentions are. But the majority of women I have met won't waste anymore time if it's clear things won't go anywhere as quickly as they would like.
Just for the record, guys do this, too ... I've been "on the hook" before. and I've seen many other women I know in that position. Once I recognized it for what it was, I swore I'd never do it again!
