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11 Jan 2014, 7:22 pm

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You already know the answer - you are getting on their nerves. There are behaviours you are displaying or things you are saying that are rubbing these women up the wrong way. If they are not willing to be completely open with you and tell you specifically what it is that annoys them about you (you need to ask them to tell you, they won't do it voluntarily), then you need to do your own investigation. At what points did she seem to be annoyed with you during the relationship? What did you say or do that caused negative reactions? If you think you could work on fixing those things, do. If you don't think they are negative qualities, just that who you are doesn't match with who she is, then you need to try to find someone more compatible.



I agree with this.

I'm also confused.. Since when was she your girlfriend? Because you kept referring to her in other threads as the woman you're "quasi" dating, and/or the "kissing" coworker. Weren't you actively pursuing other women at the same time?

I dunno. I admit, your posts often confuse the hell out of me..



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11 Jan 2014, 7:34 pm

MadeUnderground wrote:

I agree with this.

I'm also confused.. Since when was she your girlfriend? Because you kept referring to her in other threads as the woman you're "quasi" dating, and/or the "kissing" coworker. Weren't you actively pursuing other women at the same time?

I dunno. I admit, your posts often confuse the hell out of me..


she became my girlfriend,for a brief while. ''kissing'' or ''flirty''co-worker
is a title,I gave her.same as the ''cute autism girl''.



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11 Jan 2014, 8:05 pm

Could just mean she wanted someone to kiss not a relationship.


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11 Jan 2014, 8:16 pm

billiscool wrote:
yellowtamarin wrote:
You already know the answer - you are getting on their nerves.


and she's not the first one's,I've had other females I indirectly pissed off.
my new ex gf(the female co-worker)barely talks to me now.
damnit,it sucks.If I get a 4th GF,hopefully it goes good.

I don't like being dump

Okay so you've managed to quote the least relevant part of my post (the bit you already knew) and then used words like "hopefully..." and "I don't like...", so I think you have already decided that it's a compatibility issue, not something to do with your behaviours. So all I can say is good luck in your search.



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11 Jan 2014, 8:26 pm

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I agree with this.

I'm also confused.. Since when was she your girlfriend? .


when she said she was.she finally said she's my girlfriend.
I kept following her,and she got pissed off and annoyed.
I got on her nerves. I wouldn't leave her alone.



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11 Jan 2014, 8:29 pm

billiscool wrote:
MadeUnderground wrote:


I agree with this.

I'm also confused.. Since when was she your girlfriend? .


when she said she was.she finally said she's my girlfriend.
I kept following her,and she got pissed off and annoyed.
I got on her nerves. I wouldn't leave her alone.


Bill, seriously, do you think you are exempt from the rules for everyone else just because you are learning disabled?



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11 Jan 2014, 8:48 pm

billiscool wrote:
I kept following her,and she got pissed off and annoyed.
I got on her nerves. I wouldn't leave her alone.

Stop doing this then!



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11 Jan 2014, 9:15 pm

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Bill, seriously, do you think you are exempt from the rules for everyone else just because you are learning disabled?


what rules? relationship rules? there's lot I need to learn on how
to keep a relationship.



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11 Jan 2014, 9:31 pm

I think just generic social rules. You can't be around someone all the time and in constant contact.


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13 Jan 2014, 9:24 am

leafplant wrote:
^ I am going to guess it all started to go wrong when he demanded that she be happy around him at all times and when he wouldn't shut up about political views of women being the cause of all problems everywhere :twisted:

That doesn't sound like Bill. ^^^


I think the problem is that the OP is more extroverted (or at least tries to be) than the average Aspie. Rather than being aloof and closed off he instead comes on too strong or too fast and many girls find it annoying and offputting (i.e. following girls around, pickup lines, demanding commitment.) I used to be the same way.



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13 Jan 2014, 9:47 am

I am sorry that happened, but I think you need to take perspective on a few things.

1.) You routinely posted about how since you weren't "technically" together, you would flirt with other girls. Guarentee that would annoy her. Next time, don't try to have your cake and eat it to. (Meaning don't try to keep a girl and see others)

2.) You continued to post bemoaning your life about how girls hate you, even when you had a girl. This can project negative energy she can pick up on.

3.) Do we really need to discuss how following her around was wrong? Just because she's your gf, she doesn't need to be welded to your hip.



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13 Jan 2014, 11:09 pm

thewhitrbbit wrote:
I am sorry that happened, but I think you need to take perspective on a few things.

1.) You routinely posted about how since you weren't "technically" together, you would flirt with other girls. Guarentee that would annoy her. Next time, don't try to have your cake and eat it to. (Meaning don't try to keep a girl and see others)

2.) You continued to post bemoaning your life about how girls hate you, even when you had a girl. This can project negative energy she can pick up on.

3.) Do we really need to discuss how following her around was wrong? Just because she's your gf, she doesn't need to be welded to your hip.


1-at one time,yes.But she eventual said she's my girlfriend.
2-but I've also have said ''I have female friends''and some women
do like me,but people here,just dismiss it and say ''oh their just fakes,they
just pretend to like you''which pisses me off.
3-well.now I know.Still,it sucks,I just wanted to talk to her.
but I annoyed and seriously pissed her off.
she still mad at me.