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The_Face_of_Boo
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25 Jan 2014, 5:20 pm

Another facet of Hypergamy.



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26 Jan 2014, 3:46 am

billiscool wrote:
I know women usually prefer taller men,
what's weird is alot of 4'9,4'10'' women still
wants men 6 feet or taller.I Rarely see a 4'10''
women with a 5'3 or 5'4 men. I have a female
friend,who's 4'9'' and her BF is 6'3'',I know
other under 5 feet women,that are dating men alot
taller than them.So,I guess 5'3-5'5'' men aren't
tall enough for them.

so,even alot of short women don't want short men
(who are taller than them)


Why is it automatically presumed that it's women's preferences determining the pairing here? Y'know, its entirely possible for a tall guy to prefer a petite girl and for the girl to have open preferences.



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26 Jan 2014, 4:48 am

blue_bean wrote:
billiscool wrote:
I know women usually prefer taller men,
what's weird is alot of 4'9,4'10'' women still
wants men 6 feet or taller.I Rarely see a 4'10''
women with a 5'3 or 5'4 men. I have a female
friend,who's 4'9'' and her BF is 6'3'',I know
other under 5 feet women,that are dating men alot
taller than them.So,I guess 5'3-5'5'' men aren't
tall enough for them.

so,even alot of short women don't want short men
(who are taller than them)


Why is it automatically presumed that it's women's preferences determining the pairing here? Y'know, its entirely possible for a tall guy to prefer a petite girl and for the girl to have open preferences.


Check out just about any dating site. Look for the shallow females who say something like "I am x height, therefore you should be x+n height". From experience, there are more thinking it. and who will act on it, than are pathetic enough to write it, but there are plenty who write it.



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26 Jan 2014, 5:37 am

i'm 6'3" soon 4" and if i'm honest the ideal of being able to pick a girl i love up would be nice as it seems romantic same with having to pick her up or knee down to hug/kiss, but i'm romantic and thus into romantic gestures, even if in reality it would cause problems. but is not something i'd limit myself too if i got a girl i could do it with yay if not yay

know whats more of a concern for me being tall , beds, my feet and ankles always hang off them :( lol



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26 Jan 2014, 11:28 am

I find petite women incredibly cute and attractive. A woman my height (5ft11) or taller loses attractiveness. Its just a preference/instinct thing I suppose.

Almost all models (fashion, tv, etc) are 5ft 10 or taller because they need to be seen on stage. I have seen and met women that qualified as super-super models in terms of beauty but their height (tall!) did not trigger in me an attraction feeling.

On the flips side, I have met women that were short in stature (4ft8~5ft2) that would qualify as 'nice yet plain looking' and found them incredibly attractive.



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26 Jan 2014, 12:00 pm

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And, you know, there are some things which are fun to do in bed and require the guy to be bigger/stronger than you....


I knew it!


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26 Jan 2014, 12:17 pm

There are an awful lot of the men's profiles on the dating sites that say "prefer petite women." I think I've seen one that said "prefer tall women" and he was 6'7".



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26 Jan 2014, 1:12 pm

*sigh* Serves me right for responding to an issue that people feel so insecure about.

Just FYI, it isn't that people closer to my height or shorter, since I have dated quite a few people shorter than me, are unable to do a lot of things in bed. There's just one or two things they can't do because leverage, out of the multitude of things possible in bed.

Sometimes it's nice to have those things done, but not so nice that I'd be willing to put up with an as*hole over it, as the gentlemen who was my partner before the last one found out. The last one was 5'3"--while I understand that society puts a lot of pressure on men to be tall, it's really not that big of a deal.

It's certainly less of a big deal than not being a douche bag.


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26 Jan 2014, 1:38 pm

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Niall: It isn't a deal-breaker for me, it only changes the logistics. I've dated 4'11"-6'4".

MadeUnderground: I'm... physiologically different than most women. I put on muscle like a champ with very little effort. It is rare for someone my size to be stronger than me, and unless that person puts in some serious gym time, it's possible for me to be stronger than someone up to four inches taller than me who is male. Since I row, that goes double for the muscles which allow me to pull.

What this means is that I'm ultra-dense. The lowest possible weight for me (I got there once, but it requires me to eat once a day for a total of 1400 calories including sport drinks and coffee, run fourteen miles a week and spend three days in the gym weight lifting) is 155 (at 5'5"). Of course, at that weight I'm starving, my hair is falling out, I don't have periods and I'm always exhausted.

I've been professionally evaluated. That really is the low end of normal weight for me. I'm a statistical anomaly (they had to do the math for my chart several times to double check their results against the standard BMI equations.)

I typically compensate in bed by doing a lot of the work, since chances are good the other person needs me to do so to keep them able to continue performing. Sometimes, it's nice to date people stronger than me. It rarely happens, between my strong preference for nerds and my need to work out in order to sleep regularly. Generally speaking, the few times that has happened, the other person has been huge tall or huge gym-obsessive. I've only had one boyfriend under 6' who did not require me to do most of the work, and it was because he spent four hours a day in the gym (football/rugby player). He was essentially shaped like a barrel. It was fun to watch him eat, if a little alarming.

Again, it's not necessary that the other person be taller, merely fun sometimes. It's... nice... to be able to be manhandled in some specific ways (like up against a wall and unable to stand up, or hanging like a monkey from their shoulders to administer head.)


You row?! *claps hands, twirls around, runs about like a loon and then hugs mouthyb's legs* I wuw you :D



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26 Jan 2014, 3:43 pm

leafplant: Oh yeah. I use a modified machine which uses my body weight via tilt and pneumatic resistance. I LOVE rowing. Best exercise ever (although weight lifting comes in there fairly high as well.)

I used to be a runner and basketball player, but my knees are no longer 'having it' from me.


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26 Jan 2014, 4:33 pm

It's all about sex too.



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26 Jan 2014, 5:08 pm

mouthyb wrote:
leafplant: Oh yeah. I use a modified machine which uses my body weight via tilt and pneumatic resistance. I LOVE rowing. Best exercise ever (although weight lifting comes in there fairly high as well.)

I used to be a runner and basketball player, but my knees are no longer 'having it' from me.


Oh. I thought you meant on the water.



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26 Jan 2014, 5:55 pm

leafplant: Alas, I am mid-desert. It makes real rowing difficult. :lol:


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26 Jan 2014, 6:07 pm

leafplant wrote:
mouthyb wrote:
leafplant: Oh yeah. I use a modified machine which uses my body weight via tilt and pneumatic resistance. I LOVE rowing. Best exercise ever (although weight lifting comes in there fairly high as well.)

I used to be a runner and basketball player, but my knees are no longer 'having it' from me.


Oh. I thought you meant on the water.


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26 Jan 2014, 9:36 pm

I like the dramatic spacing, at first I was like: oh this m*****f****r did not just post a ton of blank space, but then I loled and it was all better.


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26 Jan 2014, 10:43 pm

mouthyb wrote:
*sigh* Serves me right for responding to an issue that people feel so insecure about.


What does this mean?


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