Being Single Is 'Not a Crisis'

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I've certainly never considered it a crisis. Some of the happiest periods of my life have been while I was single.

Sometimes I wish I hadn't had the wonderful relationship I had with my late fiance. Now that I know what a great relationship can be like, I miss it. But unless I find someone who is every bit as great, I'd rather remain single.

loneliness is natures way of insuring our cooperation in that of reproduction and/or social activities that involves others where there is a higher chance of reproducing. we may not feel we want to mate with all or any humans, but being socially active does help promote the circumstances needed for finding a mate, while also offering a sense of companionship in the mean while, a sense of belonging and security.

No one is alike because all it takes is one genetic strand to be different then the rest, so there are always exceptions, but in over all, the most happy human is one where are many such friendships and opportunities and chances to adapt if not prosper. when we are the most sad, is when we choose to fight against our selves and nature, or that of when we feel out of place and alone.

Some of us are just broken that way, but its not because thats what we want or where we truly want to be, in part this is why nature made us this way, so that we would feel the need of others to help balance our lives. just when we lack the tools we end up suffering for it. but none the less, tis only our selves were making sad, because we hunger for that social belonging and then out of frustration blame our selves and others and even try and turn away from it and deny it for our selves.

Enjoy life in the moment, make the best of it as it comes, its your life.

If life were but a dream, then its your dream your dreaming, make it yours and shape and mold it into what you want it to be.

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Master Thread Killer.

A lot of people on this thread don't seem to know what the word "crisis" actually means.

By definition, a crisis is a one-time unexpected event. It is not a continuing state. Therefore, the word "crisis" cannot be applied to a state of singleness.

Even though you are female, young ill bet, lets see you tell that to woman wanting yet to bare a child, as the onset of Peri-menopause starts in.

I just wanted to add to my previous comments. I meant them to be an encouragement to people to feel like they can be happy alone rather than ridicule of people's feelings.

If you want to look for love, then do so. It is natural to want it, even if it is possible to live without it.

What I mean is, don't let a lack of love or an obtaining of love define who you are or be the primary way to value your existence.

You are wonderful each in your own way, alone or with someone else in your life.

I agree, social isolation is bad. People generally need other people around them to share life with. People that don't have sexual relationships aren't neccessarily socially isolated. Are you saying that asexual people don't have satisfying human interaciton in relationships with others?

Being celibate doesn't turn people into peodophiles. Honestly

And being celibate doesn't make people attracted to inanimate objects.

Stop scaremongering and making people feel like freaks! I'm trying to help people feel content within themselves.

Depression is a problem, but there are lots of ways of living fulfilling lives and looking for the best in your own situation. Some of us won't have a romantic relationship with someone else. We need to find other things to enjoy in life and enjoy who we are and enjoy friendships and find happiness in other ways.

It's by no means a guarantee that isolation will have the same effects on everyone. But when you combine it with neurological defects like Autism, you're in a potentially hazardous situation. At minimum you're going to become depressed, and that can have significant physiological ramifications.

Hey OP, fantastic!

I'm gonna eat a chocolate cookie tonight to try and get over my singleship.