online dating advice/critique my OKC profile

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I really haven't, that's the thing. I'm very picky about making sure that my photos represent exactly how I look because lying about your image, to me, Is a terrible thing to do.

Apart from the shot where I'm skiing, my headshot and full body shot were taken just last year during the summer. Apart from recently getting a buzz cut, my looks haven't changed much.I have a more recent shot of me on the hill, but all of these photos were taken with my phone and that the pain in my butt to do. I really don't own a better camera and I wish I did.

Ah I see I'll go fix those.

I totally understand; I would too if I were doing the same for someone else's profile.

I'm quite knowledgeable when it comes to the English language most of the time, but like it is being pointed out to me sometimes I even miss my own errors. However, they're very far and few between each other, usually.

Thank you, I'm glad.

EDIT: A girl just randomly left me a message! I talked to her a little bit already,, but I'm not sure what else to ask her or talk about. Would anyone like to hear the gist of our conversation?

Re-read your opening statement. I do not doubt you speak the truth but as much as I hate to say it, the vast majority of profiles say that almost word for word and they are meaningless words. Not trying to knock you as my old profile had it too. I appreciate you are being honest but this will fail to impress most suitors. HOW are you all those positive things? Show the ladies with indirect examples because most girls will assume you are making it up like almost everyone else.

I should also mention I also thought "so what does this guy from May to October? Anything?" Keep that in mind too. Im not disagreeing you want a ski buddy but if a girl had little interest in hockey it would NOT be a deal breaker for me. I will let you form your own answer on that one but thats how I see it.

I think it's a good profile. As the others have said, you need to tidy up the typos and so on. You are attractive looking, and there's a gentle humour coming across.

The one thing that struck a slightly off note with me, was that you said that you were chivalrous. That could be taken to mean that you are old-fashioned in your attitudes to women, and might put some women off. Maybe "thoughtful" would be better?

I didn't know what those shoes were in that picture, but it seems that they are Vibrams, and you mention on this thread that you like the barefoot feel. That's something that you could mention in that 6 things bit.

Another thing - in the profile you say you're looking for someone who's outgoing, but here you say you'd like to meet someone who's introverted like you. Maybe you should try to express that preference in some way. Extroverts can complement introverts, but they can also be exhausting and differing personalities and expectations might clash.

How exciting! Do tell us! Edit: was she nerdy?




I completely disagree with you, Marcia. I don't see why the OP should have to edit his profile to be politically correct just so that it meets the approval of potential angry feminists who might be reading it. If he's chivalrous, he's chivalrous. Tell it like it is.

If what he wants to attract is an old-fashioned girl who wants to be treated like a lady, then those kinds of girls will be attracted to his statement that he is chivalrous, so it's in his interests to leave that word in. Anyone who objects to that word or is angered by it is the kind of girl a chivalrous man probably doesn't want to meet anyway. Therefore, leaving in the word "chivalrous" will act like a filter to keep away all the kind of girls who do not share his own chivalrous value system.

That's just my opinion because I abhor political correctness and prefer brutal honesty. I also have an appreciation for chivalry!

Post photos that paint you in the most positive light or use fake model pics to win people over. Profile content does not seem to matter, we are all judge based on our profile pics. Photoshop and professional photos may work. Anyway on the bright side using a free online dating site does not cost you anything and if you do not meet anyone it does not cost you on pointless dates that often lead to nothing.

You are joking about this, right?

Don't use fake pictures; but your pictures should show your best sides.

Do NOT post fake pictures! It can get your account deleted!

Besides, what happens when you then actually meet someone and they find out your photos were fake? I briefly talked with someone, and then he gave me his email address. Of course, I googled him, and it turned out his photos were at least 20 years old. Not only did he look 20 years older than his photos, he was also about 150 lbs heavier!

Google makes it totally not worth fudging (or worse, outright lying) on your profile. Unless, of course, your goal is only to see how many women you can get to message you and have no intention of ever actually meeting anyone....

Unless your courting radical feminists, you'll prob be ok with saying your chivalrous. In my experience, the vast majority of women say they still want those behaviors.

Yes, and they insist to pay half you get shocked later on that they were testing you if you're gonna pay all.

OK cupid is AWFUL

The men there are horrible, They try to use you for sex. Ie they want to come around your house to have sex with you but don't want to go out anywhere or do anything else. Yack yack.

It might be better for men, but I didn't get along well there. Plus I got some nasty emails because I did not reply to someone.

If you are female remember to cut any cleavage out of your pictures otherwise you end up with lots of emails saying "nice tits, want to shag"

Eeek. No thank you.

I've disabled my okc.

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Online dating is NEVER better for men sadly to say.

While you may be getting messages; we get silence.

Okay, I understand. I will need to give some thoughts into how I am those things that I say I am. Right now I'm not quite sure of the answer..

okay, I see what you're getting at with this point. I glanced over it again and I put a whole bunch of emphasis on what I like to do in the wintertime but not so much what I like doing in the summertime. I mean, there are activities I like to do in the summer time, the main 2 things are Parkour and trail biking? Like,, cross-country biking. Maybe I should speak more about that.

I was afraid that I might put too much detail in and that the attention span of the average person might wither if they saw that wall of text.


when I was saying chivalrous I meant it in a way that I was very polite... May be "courteous" would've been a better word. I have this obsession to upscale my vocabulary when I write.

those are indeed vibram 5 fingers. I like using them for runs and occasionally Parkour, but most of the time everyday wear.

I think at the time that I was writing that, I was being very generic in writing my profile. I think I came to the realization that I should probably look for someone who talks about as much as I do so I don't feel pressured to keep conversation up with someone. A lot of the time I'm of very few words.

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NONE of my posted photos are fake/aren't photos of me. I just could not do that, it's a violation of my moral code. I try to keep my photos at least one year up-to-date, And at least be no later than 3 years.