AngelRho wrote:
It might be hard to believe, but some people do tend to get things figured out sooner than others.
And if there was an label on that people, to recognize it, it would be great. But there is not.
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My experience was that I figured out what I was going to be when I grew up at an early age, so everything I did was intently focussed on that by about 5th grade or 6th grade.
Thats great, but nothing that was labeled on your face for others.
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The only thing that changed was I learned more about what that meant and gradually acquired the intellectual and material tools to make those kinds of things happen.
And you got a label on your face, telling that to other people?
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I guess it would be kinda like if you had a bunch of kids who enjoy playing with Legos, but then you have that ONE kid who is fanatically obsessed with them, or at least appears to be, and then you figure out it's because he's determined to be an architect one day and playing with Legos is more than a passing interest. I was THAT kid really since I started grade school. I was determined to be a metal god.
Everything of that is fine. BUT ITS NOT LABELED ON YOUR FACE. AS ITS ON NOONES OTHER FACE.
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I shorten the rest to: Absolutely fine, but nothing of that is recognizable on the outside of an person. The most intense interested person into becoming whatever or acchieving this or that in life, can suddenly have out of certain happenings or experience, totally other oppinions and goals in life. Even with 50 year old people you have enough stories of people, suddenly changing their focus in life completely out of "midlife crisis" or knows hell what, so making a fuss about "16-19 year old person" might change their life priorities, is not necessary. In the opposite I´d say, to absolutely expect the majority of teen and young adults, to have some big chances about their oppinions and life priorities between their 15-30. Its simply normal for people that age.
Simply take the person in front of you the way it is. Because if there is an lifelong security about someone always being this or that way, you will be able to tell on the day that person died. Anything else is fortune telling.
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Good relationships HURT when they end. Heck, most relationships hurt when they end, even when they're not good.
I cant say either. But because of them being 19 and 16, its pretty reasonable that beside some broken hearts, there wont be much to bother about. So no kids that need to deal with their divorcing parents, no house with credit-loans to manage with, or any other serious stuff. That "the world will end" for the affected ones, on the day an relationship that "lasted for eternal two years" (around that age even three months is already close to eternity ^^) I wont denie, but dealing with that is as well a rather normal part of growing up.
You see the negative of it. I see it as an part of the road, that leaded me to become the person that I am. Breaking relationships hurt, but as well cause us to learn about what really might be of importance for us, and so mature by it. There are reasons, why the older we get, the less we care for stuff like "Having a cool hairstyle and bike/(car) and being able to quote 50% of the Ghostbuster film backwards." to fall in love with someone. ^^
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21 Feb 2014, 9:31 am
