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26 Feb 2014, 10:58 am

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No, the OP. I read this article on some topic or another before it ended up here, which seemed like an odd coincidence.



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26 Feb 2014, 12:30 pm

It doesn't really matter if you leave her alone or not, because for her to want you to leave her alone, means she already labeled you as a rapist in the first place.



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26 Feb 2014, 2:31 pm

One doesn't need to be a potential rapist to be a creep women want to avoid.

It works the other way too. I am sure all men have come across at least one really creepy woman who they couldn't wait to get away from.

I don't know if this is just me or some sort of world-wide mind virus, but I have noticed myself taking offense at people showing attraction to me even when they are someone I also find attractive. It's really weird and I have no idea what's going on there but it's like some sort of involuntary "How dare you think about me in that tone of voice" reaction.

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26 Feb 2014, 3:58 pm

Interesting article and raised many valuable points. But reading through the comments is even more interesting to me. To paraphrase One women said that when an alarm bell rings off in her head, she is not only going to not allow that person to be alone with her, but also make sure that person is never her friend nor ever associate with any of her female friends. As far as that commentor goes, that man has identified himself as the enemy.

Now, what happens if down the line such a girl meets that man's girlfriend and becomes friends with her? What if the man and his partner are married by that point and have children? A little on the overthinking side, yes... but that is an interesting thought to me. I will not go any further with it because I don't want to make any assumptions.


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26 Feb 2014, 4:13 pm

I think we've all met that level 5 clinger.



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14 Oct 2014, 6:21 pm

Uh,, this guide is for extreme cases who otherwise don't care what is right or wrong, IE Frat Bot boy bros or any other beer gulping can crushing doucebag.



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14 Oct 2014, 7:12 pm

I found that article mostly useless...and I do not usually think males that approach are potential 'rapists' unless I have some kind of reason to think that or get some really nasty vibe then yeah I might decide to not interact and get away...but no I do not assume any male that comes up to me has bad intentions so I do not expect them to act as if I am seeing them as that kind of threat and act accordingly...I just don't get a lot of that and some just seems like common sense...I mean duh if someone is busy maybe they don't want to be disturbed, and of course if someone says to leave them alone you should do that.


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15 Oct 2014, 2:01 pm

Sweetleaf wrote:
I found that article mostly useless...and I do not usually think males that approach are potential 'rapists' unless I have some kind of reason to think that or get some really nasty vibe then yeah I might decide to not interact and get away...but no I do not assume any male that comes up to me has bad intentions so I do not expect them to act as if I am seeing them as that kind of threat and act accordingly...I just don't get a lot of that and some just seems like common sense...I mean duh if someone is busy maybe they don't want to be disturbed, and of course if someone says to leave them alone you should do that.



Yeah, most of her statistics come across as liberal horse$hit.



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15 Oct 2014, 4:57 pm

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Sweetleaf wrote:
I found that article mostly useless...and I do not usually think males that approach are potential 'rapists' unless I have some kind of reason to think that or get some really nasty vibe then yeah I might decide to not interact and get away...but no I do not assume any male that comes up to me has bad intentions so I do not expect them to act as if I am seeing them as that kind of threat and act accordingly...I just don't get a lot of that and some just seems like common sense...I mean duh if someone is busy maybe they don't want to be disturbed, and of course if someone says to leave them alone you should do that.



Yeah, most of her statistics come across as liberal horse$hit.


Some of it comes across as crap, don't know about the liberal bit though...people tell me that is what I lean towards politically, yet nothing in that article reflected any of my views. Either way the article didn't really make sense to me as being good 'dating' advice or whatever.


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15 Oct 2014, 5:21 pm

Sweetleaf wrote:
rainydaykid wrote:
Sweetleaf wrote:
I found that article mostly useless...and I do not usually think males that approach are potential 'rapists' unless I have some kind of reason to think that or get some really nasty vibe then yeah I might decide to not interact and get away...but no I do not assume any male that comes up to me has bad intentions so I do not expect them to act as if I am seeing them as that kind of threat and act accordingly...I just don't get a lot of that and some just seems like common sense...I mean duh if someone is busy maybe they don't want to be disturbed, and of course if someone says to leave them alone you should do that.



Yeah, most of her statistics come across as liberal horse$hit.


Some of it comes across as crap, don't know about the liberal bit though...people tell me that is what I lean towards politically, yet nothing in that article reflected any of my views. Either way the article didn't really make sense to me as being good 'dating' advice or whatever.


Just seemed to have a left leaning bias, the whole feminist thing, and reeked of presumption.

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15 Oct 2014, 6:02 pm

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Excellent article. I hope that it will clarify for many why women *have* to be selective, skeptical, guarded, nonresponsive, etc., in their interactions with men they don't know......including those they may encounter on online dating sites.

And, for the record, I want to add that not just extremely attractive women who get raped. For a rapist, it is not a sexual act, so the woman's attractiveness is not a factor. It is an act of power and dominance, so any woman at all makes a suitable subject for the rapist.


There's even cases of men and elderly women being raped so this is accurate, sometimes a rapist may rape another man for the challenge or fight he might put up.

Domination and power are very strong factors in arousal..



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15 Oct 2014, 10:51 pm

rainydaykid wrote:
Sweetleaf wrote:
I found that article mostly useless...and I do not usually think males that approach are potential 'rapists' unless I have some kind of reason to think that or get some really nasty vibe then yeah I might decide to not interact and get away...but no I do not assume any male that comes up to me has bad intentions so I do not expect them to act as if I am seeing them as that kind of threat and act accordingly...I just don't get a lot of that and some just seems like common sense...I mean duh if someone is busy maybe they don't want to be disturbed, and of course if someone says to leave them alone you should do that.



Yeah, most of her statistics come across as liberal horse$hit.


Yup. Typical jizzabell type fluff piece with absolutely NO grounding in reality. The fact is, MOST women are the victims of sexual assault by someone they are close with such as friends or family. NOT a complete stranger or creeper skulking in the background. And hey, if women are so scared sh*tless by men, then why do they almost all seem to prefer the stupid ghetto thug as far as relationships go?



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16 Oct 2014, 7:20 am

JackBruns wrote:
rainydaykid wrote:
Sweetleaf wrote:
I found that article mostly useless...and I do not usually think males that approach are potential 'rapists' unless I have some kind of reason to think that or get some really nasty vibe then yeah I might decide to not interact and get away...but no I do not assume any male that comes up to me has bad intentions so I do not expect them to act as if I am seeing them as that kind of threat and act accordingly...I just don't get a lot of that and some just seems like common sense...I mean duh if someone is busy maybe they don't want to be disturbed, and of course if someone says to leave them alone you should do that.



Yeah, most of her statistics come across as liberal horse$hit.


Yup. Typical jizzabell type fluff piece with absolutely NO grounding in reality. The fact is, MOST women are the victims of sexual assault by someone they are close with such as friends or family. NOT a complete stranger or creeper skulking in the background. And hey, if women are so scared sh*tless by men, then why do they almost all seem to prefer the stupid ghetto thug as far as relationships go?


Do you live in the ghetto perhaps? I mainly find that people date people like them, conservative looking women tend to date conservative looking men, at least that's what I see.

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