spiraloutkeepgoing wrote:
leafplant: That's a good point. I might not want to remind him of the past. I feel like either way, if I never got back in touch with him or if I did, I would do something wrong or say something wrong and mess it up. And the last thing I want to do is hurt his feelings...again. I still don't know what I'll do, if anything. I don't want to do the wrong thing. And part of me feels like if he wanted to talk to me, he would have texted me or something by now. It's been a few years. I just don't know what to do.
Having spent almost 20 years getting over various "I wonder what could have been-s" I have (personally) come to the conclusion that I probably had lucky escapes all those times and I am absolutely certain that most guys will pursue you if they are interested. Of course, there are a few super shy and non self confident ones that won't pursue you, but those are best with someone who doesn't have the same issues and if you are indecisive than you can't be the right person for them.
Either way, if you are not happy in yourself, you are in no position to have a healthy relationship, so leave this guy on the shelf until you feel on top of the world and then- and only then, make a decision about whether to contact him. That's my advice. Take it or leave it. Either way, take care of yourself first, k?