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19 Mar 2014, 11:08 pm

Archdevilius wrote:
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Id stop being friends with him.


Harsh.

A lot of people get hit on by their friends, I have been asked out by girls I befriended, I just politely said no. If she is leading him on for an attention or if he is stalking or hitting on her in a vulgar consistent way, yes they should stop being friends but that's out of order if he is just politely asking her out.


No, it isn't. The guy has a girlfriend. What does that say about him?



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20 Mar 2014, 4:24 am

hale_bopp wrote:
Archdevilius wrote:
hale_bopp wrote:
Id stop being friends with him.


Harsh.

A lot of people get hit on by their friends, I have been asked out by girls I befriended, I just politely said no. If she is leading him on for an attention or if he is stalking or hitting on her in a vulgar consistent way, yes they should stop being friends but that's out of order if he is just politely asking her out.


No, it isn't. The guy has a girlfriend. What does that say about him?


I'd feel a bit uncomfortable being friends with someone who's just waiting for me to want to be more than friends, especially if I had no desire for that to happen. I'd just feel like everything they do has an ulterior motive to gain affection.


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20 Mar 2014, 4:32 am

Also, there is a difference in asking someone out "Once" and "Once a month" clearly he can't take no for an answer.. if that was me I would have ditched him ages ago.



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21 Mar 2014, 7:40 am

he *might* be in an "open relationship" but even then, that's a mess.



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21 Mar 2014, 7:46 am

Most people who fall into category of "needing to be in a relationship" will find someone new before breaking up with their current partner because they cannot abide being single even for a day.

The very first boy I kissed had a girlfriend he had to dump in order to go out with me (for the whole 6 days until I dumped him -hey, don't judge, I was 13); so that just seems to be what happens a lot, specially when you are younger. Up until mid 20s, relationships are not taken very seriously I find, even though heartbreak hurts so bad when you are young.