SecretSoul wrote:
Tahitiii wrote:
....Have you talked to a disability lawyer or someone who knows how these things work?
If you had to live by yourself, would your diagnosis be strong enough to collect disability?
And, once established on your own, would you get custody?
Would hubby even want custody?
No I haven't because I don't qualify for disability, I've been denied several times, and he does want the children, he loves them but he's overwhelmed by them and that's in no way an excuse for his actions towards them. I'm worried about his ability to change and once the children are back with us the process to gain custody of them is so much easier than with DFS involved.
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I'm unemployed and job-wise I have a Medical Assisting degree, I guess I'm just afraid to even apply for two reasons. One is that I've been through more than 20 jobs and I'm 25 years old, all because of miscommunication and an inability to multitask....
SecretSoul, with a formal diagnosis of OCD and Asperger’s Syndrome, and given how these things have affected your ability to work, I would have thought you stood a very good chance of qualifying for Social Security Disability (SSD). You will, however, need the assistance of a lawyer who specializes in those sorts of claims. If you can not afford to pay the lawyer, s/he will work out a payment system based upon what you receive from SSD if your application is successful. I do not know how this would affect your child custody case, but you can (discreetly) start investigating these things while you wait to regain custody.
As far as your husband goes, based upon what you have written, he sounds like a selfish jerk. I agree with others. If he is unwilling to change his behavior, especially once you have the children back, then it is time to end the relationship.
30 Mar 2014, 7:58 am
