Not entirely sure I WANT a permanent relationship...

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I concur with all the introvert aspies here. Would be nice to be in a LTR with a female but not have the social expectations of a "normal" relationship-- expected to show up to her social functions and vice-versa. I loathe social functions on my own, it would be hell having to double the frequency.

I don't know about other introverted aspies, but I can spend a lot of time one on one with people I have an affinity for (almost an extra obsession). What I can't take though is spending time with said person around other people, for some reason I just fall apart in groups (even small ones like two others and myself).

I'm very high functioning on my own (at least I think I am) but melt into almost classic autism around groups of people (mutism, stimming, staring into space). I find relationships increase the expectation of socializing in a group format so that's my main reluctance at pursuing them.

I guess it's possible, but highly unlikely for me. I've never slept with anyone I hadn't known for at least 6 months. I know that sounds weird, but it's the truth. My dating history is extremely limited -- I can count on both hands the number of men I've been out with. And the men I had LTRs with (only three) were my friends who became my lovers.

I wrote about this a while back. Separate abode, mutually independent, etc.