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21 Feb 2007, 7:54 pm

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I would rather be single than be in a relationship in which I would be unhappy.

Tim


same.


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22 Feb 2007, 1:55 am

shadexiii wrote:
T-rav20 wrote:
I don't wish to be single, but I shall remain so. I can't tell the difference between someone genuinely interested in me, and someone interested in playing games (this goes for friendships as well). My tendancy to be obsessive and odd tends to be off-putting. When alone I miss being with people (sometimes), when with people I wish to be alone (always). Also, I've watched various relationships my family members have gotten into disintegrate, which makes me even more paranoid about other people. God, what a mess.


I agree with everything except for your inclusion of God. :P

It was meant ironically, I'm agnostic.


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22 Feb 2007, 3:44 am

Single - because I can



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22 Feb 2007, 4:06 am

hale_bopp wrote:
Single - because I can


That's not much of a reason. As a matter of fact, if I couldn't stay single, I would stay single out of defiance.



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22 Feb 2007, 8:04 am

T-rav20 wrote:
I agree with everything except for your inclusion of God. :P

It was meant ironically, I'm agnostic.[/quote]

I was just being silly. Rarely does "God, ..." signify a belief in, well, anything.



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22 Feb 2007, 3:00 pm

Honestly? It'd mean fewer headaches to remain single, since I'm apparently so hobbled by my solitary tendencies and inability to remain a "people person" for more than a few hours at a time, even with people I like, that having a relationship would just drive me nuts.

I have no idea how to conduct myself in this area, either, and no amount of practice is going to eradicate my habit of blabbing about irrelevant stuff to all and sundry...


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24 Feb 2007, 10:22 pm

I choose not to be in a relationship, because I don't want to get hurt, again.



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24 Feb 2007, 10:28 pm

I'm not gonna bother with a relationship because love is a joke.


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24 Feb 2007, 10:56 pm

...had quite a few relationships over the years...sad to say none were very good.


I seem to have a "knack" for finding guys that either want to correct me all the time like I am a 5 year old that is misbehaving and needs guidence....or they want to control everything I do because they think I am incapable of doing anything correctly on my own. The other 1/10 usually just deemed me crazy and joked about my "quirks"...they probably wouldn't care if I fell off a bridge, they were just biding their time with me until something better came their way.

I can be very naive...and take things at face-value without thinking about looking for a hidden meaning or I miss subtle innuendos that might exist. I don't do "jealousy" and I can't play the head games that seem to be the norm.

I've rather given up and I'm working on making myself happy "by myself" instead...even if luck was in my favor...I'd still be standing there with one eye open waiting for the proverbial hammer to fall and flatten me.


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25 Feb 2007, 12:14 am

I am pretty boring to an average person. I'm not the fun date most girls my age are looking for. If I were to have a relationship right now it would be me with a girl who is really desperate or with a girl who wants to "save" me. I don't want either kind of relationship. I can't stand clingy people at all and if I don't get my space I start getting crazy. I don't want anyone's pity and I don't want to be saved because there is nothing wrong with me. In some ways I like who I am but I hate that I alienate people. The people I'm around want to like me but I'm difficult to like.

So, short answer, no, I do not want a relationship right now.


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25 Feb 2007, 1:00 am

NeoPlatonist wrote:
I am pretty boring to an average person. I'm not the fun date most girls my age are looking for.


yeah I agree whole heartly, see, the older I get, the colder I grow, and it's hard to be like everyone else, it's like, they live in this world of fake courteous, and I hell I'd love to be in there, when the saints come marching in, but I don't know the music, or the steps, so I look like a person whole well got lost... anyone one else get me?



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25 Feb 2007, 6:09 am

NeoPlatonist wrote:
I am pretty boring to an average person. I'm not the fun date most girls my age are looking for. If I were to have a relationship right now it would be me with a girl who is really desperate or with a girl who wants to "save" me. I don't want either kind of relationship. I can't stand clingy people at all and if I don't get my space I start getting crazy. I don't want anyone's pity and I don't want to be saved because there is nothing wrong with me. In some ways I like who I am but I hate that I alienate people. The people I'm around want to like me but I'm difficult to like.

So, short answer, no, I do not want a relationship right now.


I am in the same situation you are, except that I do want a relationship. Just not with anyone who is clingy or desperate.

Tim


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25 Feb 2007, 5:08 pm

I think i have to get used to live alone probably i won't never find one ......i have to to get used to this ....there's no other option for me.



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25 Feb 2007, 5:11 pm

I think my problem with finding someone is that I am probably too picky when it comes to selecting a partner.

I have a lot of must-haves.

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25 Feb 2007, 8:15 pm

I am very picky as well.


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25 Feb 2007, 8:21 pm

Seeking out a relationship, especially doing so in an enthusiastic manner, can lead to disaster. I've given up on looking for one for the time being. Keep "finding" the same type, for some reason or another I seem to be attracted to the type that ends up hurting me. Not to say that any other type would be unattractive, just that's what I end up going for.

If something just kind of happens, that's something else. I'm not avoiding any chance of a relationship, just giving up on actively finding one for a bit.