Are all the good ones REALLY taken by 27?

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*groans*

You're very immature, OP. Extremely.
You'll probably find your "classmates" are playing up their success. and no, the "good ones" are not taken at 27.
One "good one" might get married at 22 to the wrong person, and be divorced at 35. Another good one might not meet a compatible person until they're 40.

The idiocy of some people never ceases to surprise me.

Last edited by hale_bopp on 22 May 2014, 10:31 pm, edited 1 time in total.

Don't sweat it. For one thing, think about the cougar phenomena - forty-seven year old women regularly peruse the eighteen to twenty-something guys. When I was fifty, I dated a dollish twenty-two year-old. It works for men as well as women. So, you'll not be too old anytime soon. Secondly, there are plenty of career girls that never get married and stay in shape with no kids or other entanglements. Life is good.

BTW, I got used by a couple of closet lesbians, both when I was young and hadn't dated much. Luckily, I wasn't for a long time.

K, good luck. lol, youll need it.

Maybe think less about an jobs paycheck and more about the job. Turn it the other way, and try imagining what thoughts would go through your minds, if you met a girl who told you "Oh, my dream is to sit all day on the couch and watch TV and play computergames."

Would you think this should be the one to be the mother of your kids?

Or would you be more interested in the girl saying: "I am interested in gardening, visited as well a school about it. Sadly I am actually without a job, in the meanwhile I work a bit on my own, offering my services in the neighborhood. In my free time I like to play Final Fantasy and I am a fan of Dr. Who."

I think you are focusing too much on the numbers of a pay check, and too less what having a pay check and spending it in certains ways, at all means in general. It means to be interested to enhance your life, direct it to a certain goal, ... When I spended my paychecks on the house ma partner and I now live in, I showed him as well that I am REALLY interested into living with him and raise a family together with him.

The number of the paycheck itself, does not really mean that much. A girl earning 2500 USD a month and spending 2000 of it every month on cloths, definitely will not be convincing to be an responsible partner. ^^

Let me tell you about the joy of dating younger women. Even if it were true and all the good ones were all taken by 27, you can date 27 year olds until you're 40. You've got a decade and a half to go.

Minimum age is ½ your age +7 (rule of thumb, exceptions may be granted).

Another one who needs to get real.

Im not a good one Im sure of it which is why I am still single at 31 of course I lost my confidence and motivation throughout my 20s after the aftermath of an abusive relationship as well. I have done stupid stuff like chase away offers left and right and not catch on to ques of whether she likes me or just wants to talk and I usualy assume the latter in an indiferent matter and then I come across some that want to jump into a relationship with me and triggering flashbacks of my past and I run away from it. I am hopeless not to mention immature and annoying in a way i am doing them a favor.It is better I saty alone and miserable than be a burden on someone or run the risk of getting into another abusive relationship. I have had passitve aggressive tendancys as a means of survival and defence against stalkers and people out to get me like my stepdad!

for those that say build you're career, What if a person can't build a career. Fact of life is not everyone has a career, a good amount just have jobs that never lead to advancement. So what about those people?

honestly I have no career in my future i'm either going be a cashier or maybe a security guard. Jobs but not careers.
Though I see careers traditionally ie military career, 1st lt to colonel) Firemen to chief, office worker to manger. Things that have advancement and plans to advance. so a guy who stays a office worker doesn't have a career. just like a decent amount of police never advance to detective. there simple isn't enough advancements for everyone to have a career, this is why the military tends to boot people out who can't advance anymore and replace them with new people. I find this really silly though cause it seems the sarg with 10 years experience would be better kept then booted out just cause he can't make sarg first class.

as for the whole finding someone at 40 thing. meh.
1. highly unlikely(seen and know too many single 40-70 people)
2. no thanks, past the time for my goal to have a family.
3. to be honest I don't plan to live alone that long. I'm thinking 35 is a good end year, probably do it on my birthday it seems um politic ? going out on the day and time I came in. gives me 9ish years, not limiting myself to going out early and such as even 9 years seems like hell.
4. seems too last choice. i'd prefer to be somes prime choice of love not the i've been with 4 guys why not try this guy. Which is how it sounds most the time. the whole she's had her family, fun with dating , life basically. kinda similar reason I have min interest in a 21 year old with 4 kids who doesn't want fun or to have more kids. I suspect the whole "fun" phase is pretty dead as is but bound to die more as they get older.
I however never got it and desire it heavily, I do want to settle down, but I want the romantic camping, trips to coast, doing stuff just the two of us, cuddling, kissing, joking around, behaving like kids a bit lool. And sex.

on the note of age, in my area there are alot of divorced, 2-4 kids, mutliple exs' 18-24 year olds. tbh though the 18s are more in the 1-2 kids range. It amazes me that a 19 year old has 4 kids already. o.O I wasn't even brave enough to talk to women at 19 and she has 4 kids, takes 9 months so isn't that mean she started at 15ish? unless maybe some where twins or shes lying. off topic i guess

I should have chased girls when I was in middle school-high
such wasted years now screwing me over. ....

Um, what do you mean by 'good'?

Starting my master's studies this fall, so I do not have time for a career yet. I'll get one when I'm finished with the master's degree, though (grades equivalent to cum laude and excellent times for engineers). I've already gotten job offers, but they would require me to quit the master's degree, something I'd regret later.

I'm the sh!t in the Darwinian fields of life; parties, getting drunk every weekend, and stuff like that, I couldn't care less about. Hedonism is for the weak.

Most of the people I know my age (girls) who were popular and beautiful in school are taken now by bullies/jocks and have been since they were 18-20 (they're 21/22 now) and I think they'll be together for a good time, I myself is probably considered one of the most good-looking guys from my class and I'm still not taken so I think it has something to do with girls being attracted to rough guys.

I think it's better to be inexperienced with relationships than to have baggage because of bad experiences with them. Very few people want a partner who compares them to their exes & judges & acts based on things with their exes. Also some woman who are inexperienced may prefer an inexperienced guy because he would seem less threatening & the relationship could be on a more even keel.

I had my 1st relationship when I was 20 & it was almost completely online & only lasted half a year. I fell into a bad psychotic depression after that took 5 years to recover from. I had my 2nd relationship a few years ago when I was about 28/29. It was mostly online & like my 1st only lasted half a year. I got into my current about 6 months latter, I moved across the country to be with her after half a year & we've been living together a couple years now.

Very interesting. And, congratulations! Most of my girlfriends have been people I knew fairly well prior to dating. As I'm sure you are aware, autistic people fall into the general bucket labeled "You have to get to know them, to like them." I'm wondering how starting your relationship online may have allowed for a phased relationship development. That is, do you think you benefitted from her understanding how you think, before the heard how you talk? Do you think that communication in a purely verbal way established communication which avoided relying on the non-verbal channels?

Personally, I was not ready for a stable, long-term relationship until I was over 30 (and possibly not even then, since my first marriage lasted only two years).

If your goal is to find good breeding stock and sire as many offspring as possible, then grab one straight out of high school. If your goal is to have a life partner with whom you communicate well, you'll quite likely do better to wait until you're over 30.

Women are not commodities that have a "shelf life." Women are people, much like yourself but with delightfully different physiology. In other words, a mate is not something that you can go to a store and pick the one that best fits your "spec sheet."

Become a whole person in your own right, and then you're much more likely to stumble across a female whole person who "fits" with you.

Okay, so if you didn't get the slightly facetious nature of this post, I'm saying that firstly it's not true that all the good ones are taken by 27, and secondly that at 25, he has plenty of years ahead of him for dating should he need. The second point is enhanced by the fact that generally women prefer to date guys slightly older than them.

Thanx I know about that bucket label. I'm awkward & shy offline thou I've gotten alot better than I used to be but I never felt like my true self around anyone except my current girlfriend. She's on the spectrum herself & we met on this forum so that made it easier for us to understand how we think & I had posted aLOT about things here before she messaged me so she had an edge going in. We're both different than the stereotypical Aspie; we're both pretty affectionate, love/crave emotional intimacy & have mental & physical things in addition to Aspergers.