Is being over 25 too old to still be living at home?

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I was my parents' live-in caretaker so I was living with them [after I got out of the army] until I was 47 years old.

I don't think it is that unusual in the high cost areas of California. When I was 25 I lived with my parents and dated a guy who also lived with his parents. By the time I was 26 I had a down payment on a house and moved directly into property I had purchased.

It is, of course, limiting to your relationship when you live at home for all sorts of reasons. And it is a turn off. But it does not have to be a deal breaker in an area where you are far from the only one doing it.

Just state it simply, "I live with my parents so that I can save money and have a better start when I do get my own place." Be matter of fact and upfront, as if it isn't a good or a bad thing, just a thing.

I rent a place with my mom and sister. my ssi helps pay for almost half of everything. When i move out they'll be homeless, so I can't do it til i know i will be ok and they will. though i couldn't really afford much in this town rent would be the whole ssi for a one bedroom flat. I don't know how to explain it to women. I live with family but not in the sense of living off them in their house. I'm 2 now so I suppose it looks even worse.

What DW states makes a lot of sense.

Just tell your potential date that you are living with your parents so you could save up to buy a house.

It would be better if you were in college, though.

However, like a few people said, it's not a "deal-breaker" by any means.

and why does it have to look worse in guys than it does in girls when it comes to living with your parents? why do girls get a free pass for living with their parents more so than guys do? or just why isn't it as frowned upon as much?

Because, in the old days (i.e., before the 1970s), girls/women didn't usually move out of their parents' homes until they got married. Unfortunately, a woman's "career" was, essentially, to take care of the home while the husband worked. This sort of thinking continues to this day, at least subconsciously.

There is also the perception that a woman living alone is more vulnerable than a man living alone. Hence, it is understandable to the society at large that a woman stays home with her parents so that they are not "exposed" to the "big, bad world."

If I were you, I wouldn't lament over that; that would be counterproductive.

When you are ready, you'll move out. When you feel the desire, you will move out.

Yes in quite a few cultures, women remain with the family until married. So remember its not all bad. At least you don't have to save up for a dowry of 12 cows and 30 or 40 sheep.

But seriously, these days you don't stand out too badly. Just stay to your plan and try to get better wages, save, and get on your own. No one can really say this or that will mean having a GF. You can just slowly improve your chances.

I am 29 and still live at home. It is not cheap to live on your own. An apartment is a waste of time and money for me. I own and operate my own business and live at home to save a ton of money so that I can go directly into home ownership. I need a good bit of land since I need a place for many vehicles, trailers and equipment, and my parents have that. I do all the work around the house and yard and repair all vehicles to pay for my stay. Doing this has allowed me to have absolutely 0 debt, I own everything, have savings and retirement aswell. I also went to college and have 2 degrees but use none of them.

Living on my own at the moment would not allow me to dump money back into the business and build it up as fast as I am. Yes I want to be on my own, but with never having a girlfriend or anyone outside of family that cares for me, it would be very lonely. It's nice being around people that accept me.

It is embarrassing and women look down on you for sure, but if nobody can accept me, f**k them. Been Alone a long time, and I will survive. And yes, no love life, but I don't get to even tell them my situation since I cannot muster the social skills required to get that far anyways.

I'm 31 & at home. Been here for a couple years or so now. Getting my life/health/work/finances etc in order finally.

I've had about all the dating life I've wanted. Being at home isn't an obstacle. It certainly helps that I have a car again and can go out whenever I feel like it. Even without a car it's not that difficult to make plans to go out and meet someone somewhere. You just have to adapt to whatever resources you have at your disposal. Sure, a career, money, car, physical fitness, and so on and so on ALL make dating easier - no one should deny that.. but not having them all doesn't make dating impossible. If there's anything on that list that you don't have but can attain for yourself, work on doing that to make yourself more attractive to others.


As for being at home at age 31, I'm ok with it. It used to bug me as so many of my peers are long established in their jobs and homes etc - BUT - for a couple reasons, I'm ok with it.

1.) I didn't know my various diagnoses and how to manage them until the past couple years. It's pretty easy to forgive myself for not having a solid career & finances yet considering all I've had to deal with. I'm doing pretty good right now, all things considered. Technically I could afford to move out now, but I don't want to for a while yet as I'd like to continue saving up some money.

2.) I live in the suburbs of Vancouver where it's extremely common for adult children to live at home with their parents, so it's not even really out of the norm at all. I don't get the same social stigma attached to it like others might in other cities. We have the second least affordable real estate in the entire world, next to Hong Kong, so families tend to live together much longer for financial reasons. We also have a large South East Asian population that come from collectivist cultures where families tend to live together sometimes forever - especially the eldest son staying at home with mom & dad, then his wife moves in etc. It's nice to live in an area where it's so normal for people my age to either still be at home or to have moved back like I did, because I don't have to deal with any judgement about it.

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No for supporting trump. Because doing so is deplorable.

Anybody know of any couples out there or past couples in which the guy was living with his parents and was able to get a girlfriend? And he was over 25, like even late 20's or even 30's

There is definitely a stigma in society against people past a certain age still being supported by their parents. However, sometimes this situation is unavoidable (especially if you can't find a job).

My living situation is currently in-between. I'm living in a basement apartment at my parent's house and I live quite independently (which includes having my own kitchen and a separate entrance). I am currently primarily supported through monthly disability support payments, though my parents help with costs that are too much for me to afford.

It's not the ideal living situation for a 32 year old (in fact, living in your parent's basement is a bit of a derogatory cliche), however I'm able to make the best of it.