Successfully Read the Cues and Had a Successful Date!

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So was the dressing very well part. That goes a very long way with the ladies.

Congrats, this is awesome.
Well done!

Thank You for the kind words. Even if it doesn't work out, it feels great to get so much positive attention and finally confidently dive in and follow my intuition and not worry about nerves.

Yes, it was also my third date in five days with eHarmony! I also have the chance with a couple more and I have to admit, as crazy as it sounds I am not motivated to meet them now. Say what you want about that site and online dating (since I have been so critical of it in the past) but my brother was right. eHarmony is been an excellent experience and all the women I have met have been great! Women tell me they like eHarmony because the cost usually means men are taking it more seriously and I totally agree that the women are ten times more serious on that site.

Like I said, I am shy, slow to warm up and very guarded. I still am in disbelief not only did I read her perfectly, but almost went all the way on the first date! I liked her as a person but saw no common interests and almost closed the match. I decided to meet her and once she told her story I fell for her hard. I am sure she would probably say the same thing. What I find incredible is that she just signed up a week before me and she ALSO just signed up a couple weeks before my last experience. Over 2 years ago and she was also one of my first matches both times!


I was at a formal event that day and had my $700 suit on. I DID warn her that I would be overdressed and apparently it worked well. I also noticed at least three ladies sizing me up when they thought I wasn't looking. Funny how I recently read an article that says never wear a tie on a first date. Guess I have to stop listening to "experts" I heard a total of 10 compliments (8 women and 2 men) that commented how sharp I look with that suit on.

He shoots.....he scores!! !! !! !! !

Men look hot in suits.

I need an outlet...

Huh, I might just try that site myself
Generally I have a lot more success simply going outside than with OKCupid, so either my profile picture is crap or I'm not looking in the right places for people I'm compatible with.

If you don't share common interests, I'd say it's a bit more interesting. You have much, much more to talk about when you don't share beliefs. It's all about having compatible personalities, not thinking the same things all the time.

Seriously dude. Good job. You are a shining beacon of hope to the other folks on WP

So, can we please have a list of helpful hints and strategies for detecting and interpreting non-verbal cues? Are there any recommended reading or reference materials? How can the success of GiantHockeyFan be repeated by others?

YAY YOU!

Suits... what a nightmare in this weather.

Positive thread in the <3 n' D forum?

What sorcery is this? Reported to the moderators!

Glad to see you have cheered up though dude. I was going to post something similarly positive a couple of weeks ago, but Hubris bit me in the arse instead and made my lung collapse, making romantic endeavours potentially fatal. There is no exclamation, profane or otherwise, that succinctly describes how annoying this is.
So I laugh instead.

Best wishes to you

Well, I guess in a nutshell I will say experience is the only teacher. I went in with experience and a calm demeanour. Go figure she picked up how nervous I was on date #2 and while I was prepared to awkwardly end the date a couple of hours later I managed to get one past the goal line Oh well guess even if it does not work out it's more experience.

Perfect attitude. Keep up the good work.

I wonder if some members would consider this a date sexual assault.

After all, she didn't explicitly say yes, not much different than Brian scenario.

Tarantella and starvingartist, what do you think?

I think they're laying down the ground work on an obedience training school for men.

A very important observation. Carefully compare the first posts of each thread and you will see the answer. Hint: There is no difference in the intentions of the guys or what they did. And, how the attempted kiss turned out is not the big difference.

That exactly what I thought of, but in a Giant's case it was a date - while in Brian's case was with a friend, both stories are very similar tho but Brian was over-shamed while Giant got over-praised, why?