Ladies does fat on guys really matter that much?

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You are sweet.

Ironically, whenever I go to Subway I usually get something really fattening like a pizza sub with double meat, cheese, and bacon. XD

FTR I have a spare tire and love handles.

I'm no where near Peter Griffin fat.

It's been said I am like a teddy bear. Cause I'm kinda fat and tall. I see myself more as a kinda fat fox. Cuddly and lovey but also shy and bit independent.


people tend to think I'm scary and tough from sight but I don't even hurt bugs unless I have to even then preferring to catch and release them outside.

I also apparently tend to appear confident until they get close to me and I open up to them

well back to my hiding hole.

I know you didn't ask for this opinion, but here goes anyways:

As a gay guy, it doesn't matter. But as ME as a gay guy, it matters. I would never date a fat guy. I'm simply turned off by that sort of build. I've been overweight myself, but am currently quite fit and improving and I wouldn't date someone who wasn't at least somewhat like minded. (or bodied?)

However, I've talked to/met both guys & girls that are in good-to-great shape who are only attracted to fat guys. My point is that there are all types of people out there and all types that are/aren't attracted to them.

Since there are all types of women who are attracted to fat guys, I assure you that being fat is not that only reason you're without a girlfriend. Chances are it's more to do with your personality, behaviour, confidence, and other things.

However, it is pretty well universally accepted that the better physical shape you're in the more attractive you become to a broader range of people, so it certainly would not hurt to improve your diet and exercise habits. It's been my experience that you'll also become happier, healthier, more energetic, more confident and so on - more attractive all around vs. just aesthetically.

So yeah, get yourself into better shape - but don't make the mistake of assuming that's the only reason you're single & work on every improving every part of yourself as a whole.

Isn't it ultimately much worse to be skinny?

Skinny-fat is worst for a guy, but then again, who do you wish to change your body for?

My partner has his bit of belly fat (around here, you call it a "beer-muscle"), but I dont feel disturbed by that in general. So he can do sport and hiking with me, as well that he eats normal stuff (simply a bit more of it). If I had a partner, that I couldnt do sport with, or that always insisted on eating sh***y stuff, then I would feel unhappy.

I believe they are out there, but likely in the minority. It doesn't seem they are on dating sites and why would they there's probably 20 fat guys to every one woman who finds them attractive. they have tons of choices without needing to go online to find them.

however at least in my area, skinny athletic guys are not as common, where as we have a over abundance of thin women. probably why most online daters here are thin women looking for but not finding thin guys. I won't dive into the percentage of thing guys that are as*holes or just after sex, I couldn't geuss but most the thin women list that the guys they've met has been those types.
I really do intend to do studies if I ever win the lottery I think it would be fun. as is I could only use comparing online profiles and cl ads.

"Chances are it's more to do with your personality, behavior, confidence, and other things."
lack of good job, own place, money.
not knowing where these thin girls who love fatties live.
oh and my face I was born with

other things I tend to be ok with though as with anything results vary woman to woman. some behaviors one woman might find bad, another will find silly, cute and attractive.

what do you consider normal stuff and what is sh***y stuff?

I don't mind a little bit of fat. My current "boyfriend" is 1.80 meters tall (5"11) and weighs about 85 kilograms (186 lbs).
I can live with that and I actually like it when cuddling him. I have to admit I prefer slimmer guys and I thought he was even more attractive when he was 20 lbs lighter, but I still like him a lot. I'm not perfect either, duh.

So why not do something that's within your control and get yourself into better shape via diet and exercise?

I don't mind a little extra cushion on a guy, but if you have to ride the scooters at Walmart and hang over both sides that's way to much.

For me it would depend. My husband is now about 50 lbs overweight but he's also 50 years old. I can still wear my high school clothes and I'm 50 too and I have a great body but thats the luck of the draw. DH has an average 50 yo working man rednecks body and I'm ok with that. I would be ok with dating somebody built like him maybe, if I was single. Now, at this age. However, back in the day I did date a fat guy once, but it didn't work. Not because of his weight, we just didn't hit it off romantically. We stayed friends though, really. We were in a crowd of kids who dated each other and stayed friends later. But I've always liked to date guys with good bodies, and it's been a thing I'd check out first.

To answer the original question, unless you're extremely overweight, it's probably not the reason you're single.

sh***y stuff for me would be: Rarely any vegetable dishes, only stuff like Pizza, ... every day. Nothing bad about a Pizza one a week, but the majority of your meals should be normal foods. When a partner insisted on eating sh***y stuff all the time, then you always needed to do two separate meals, which sucks as well.