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04 Jul 2014, 10:45 am

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I don't think its about ticking off each and every signal. Not all women display all the little tells of flirting, the may use 30 or they may use 3 (it depends on their their repetoire and their social skills). If you pick up a number of signals then you can take that as flirting.

Just don't find one clue and decide they're interested.


No, it doesn't depend on their social skills. It all comes down to if they are typical (= follow the typical rules)
or neurodiverse. In the latter case, they "fail" to show the signals because they are not natural to them rather than because they lack social skills. After all, flirting skills have no relation to typical social skills.



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04 Jul 2014, 11:59 am

When you have any form of ASD flirting is not a trait you pickup on. We are already socially awkward as it is. But thanks to forums like these or help from friends--or experiences helps us out. Over the years I have grown quite audacious.

One time a girl kept looking at me. I am a master at corner vision; looking at folks with the corner of my eyes. I'm right near her at the front of the library. Before I cross the street I said, "It's not nice to stare y'know." And smiled at here. She turned red. I think she was young. Looked in her early 20's or late teens. But wasn't my type physically. She was tiny. But cute. Lol I'm sure she gets hit on quite a lot. But if I run into her again, I'll talk to her.


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04 Jul 2014, 12:18 pm

Shaded wrote:
When you have any form of ASD flirting is not a trait you pickup on.


Not true. When I was young I was mostly non-verbal and clueless of social interaction, but I knew how to flirt with odd girls. That came natural to me from the start.

But, it is true, I had no idea (and still largely don't have any idea) how typical girls flirt, and I miss this totally. However, since I never had any interest for casual sex, or neurotypical girls, that is not an issue, and I have no reason to learn it.