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Well, in that case I am unnaturally immature because I don't think I am a relationship material even at 32.

Most everything I've read about Aspies says we mature late. It was certainly true in my case, at least as far as emotional maturity. The few Aspies I've known IRL also were late-bloomers. Some didn't marry until well into their 30s (or 40s); some never married, by their own choice. Many of them didn't finish college their first attempt and almost all of them went back to college later in life and aced it.

So, yeah, OP - I also think you've got plenty of time. Tarantella offers excellent advice.

I will reiterate that having a relationship with someone who "gets" you (the real you, not the act you put on to please someone) is the most amazing thing you can possibly imagine. It is well worth waiting for. Meanwhile, if you date other women who you are not 100% into, you can build maturity in a few ways I can think of off the top of my head: 1) you will learn a lot about give-and-take interactions with other people (a/k/a compromise), 2) you can make sure to never lead them on into thinking you are serious about them if you are not; and 3) you will learn a lot about what traits in a female partner are deal-makers and deal-breakers for you.

ree5031, do you have a circle of male friends that you are close with and often do things with?

(oops, sorry, I mixed up this thread with another one!)