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09 Jul 2014, 9:06 am

Those are very intrusive questions, and the first suggests ageism.


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09 Jul 2014, 12:19 pm

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
kraftiekortie wrote:
I think Boo is in Lebanon.

I hope you get the job, Boo. If not, keep plugging away!

You have a good sense of humor. Take advantage of it.

Also: You could be a good actor and at least pretend you're a social butterfly LOL



I don't use humor in interviews, I dunno if I had to use it in this particular case.

My answers were mainstream, I didn't know what I was supposed to answer back then, he got me off guard with those, to the marriage question for example I answered "I didn't find the right person yet" - and for the future plans (related to the marriage question) I was like "No marriage plans for now, still seeking meanwhile I am planning soon to enroll in courses in....and in..... to sharpen my knowledge".
I was bit dodgy I guess, what what I was supposed to say? Probably I should have lied and said I have a gf but still in early stage.

For the social question I was like "I am always friendly, easygoing and diplomat with people in workplace and elsewhere".

For the club question I mentioned the gym and the hiking/rafting clubs.


He did not ask a single work or skill related question.


Sounds like you did fine.



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10 Jul 2014, 9:14 am

I was asked the same marriage question today in a 2nd interview (a major co) - this time I said "currently I am dating a gf" - I specified gf to avoid gay discrimination - he smiled and was like 'good luck'. So that's it, this is the answer I will adopt for this from now one, very easy.



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10 Jul 2014, 6:20 pm

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
I was asked the same marriage question today in a 2nd interview (a major co) - this time I said "currently I am dating a gf" - I specified gf to avoid gay discrimination - he smiled and was like 'good luck'. So that's it, this is the answer I will adopt for this from now one, very easy.


If you want to lie convincingly you need to anticipate follow-up questions. F.e.:
- What's her name?
- You: I'd rather not tell, it's pretty early / I'd rather not tell, I haven't told my family yet.

I believe it's perfectly ethical to lie when you need to protect yourself from discrimination or harassment. Lying to deliberately cause harm to other people is bad, but when other people seek to f**k you over it's perfectly fine to lie. Lying sometimes fails because people feel guilty, but once I realised that there are ethical lies I no longer felt guilty and became a pretty convincing liar. For the first 16 years or so of my life I almost never lied. After I "learned" to lie I managed to get myself or my friends out of trouble a few times.
These recruiters are really nasty if they are trying to weed out gays in their company. They are a waste of life.



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11 Jul 2014, 3:18 pm

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
I was asked the same marriage question today in a 2nd interview (a major co) - this time I said "currently I am dating a gf" - I specified gf to avoid gay discrimination - he smiled and was like 'good luck'. So that's it, this is the answer I will adopt for this from now one, very easy.

It's a shame there is such discrimination and just poor misconceptions about relationships with work and your personal life. They really shouldn't be able to ask those questions, but seen as there is no actual issue then I don't see anything wrong with just giving an answer that puts their mind at ease. If you got a positive response from them, then it looks like you've solved the problem.