Women, is i ok to beat your boyfriend?

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I am shocked that this thread exists, I hold the view that it is wrong to beat your partner regardless of your gender.

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Diagnosed under the DSM5 rules with autism spectrum disorder, under DSM4 psychologist said would have been AS (299.80) but I suspect that I am somewhere between 299.80 and 299.00 (Autism) under DSM4.

I had a friend once that was a girl and I guess others thought we were dating, not not from my pov. I guess I was not really into the you have date and have sex with girls yet. middleschool. anyways she would hit me if I cussed or did something wrong. or said something wrong. but she could do all those things but not me or she'd hit me.

the old age teach of men can't hit women. seems to express that it is ok for a woman to hit men. I will never hit a woman except for if she trying to kill me. puts me at a disadvantage. plus I lean more towards being submissive. I honestly don't know if its ok for a woman to beat her bf.

Its never ok for someone to hit someone else, esp in a relationship.

I think some people say its ok to hit if someone does x or y, but my opinion is that that is what causes domestic abuse.

Exes who hit me have told me they dont agree with hitting women but that I deserved it, they had no choice but to hit me as Im so deranged.

I think they grow up thinking domestic violence is wrong and perpetrated against quiet weak women, however because they are taught to 'hit back against oppression' they resort to violence when they feel their rights violated (such as by someone nagging/shouting/disagreeing).

All the women who were in the refuge shelter when I was, were stroppy, gobby, opinionated women, strong women, annoying women. I think violence will continue while people think its ok to hit people who 'deserve it' or who are 'out of line'. We need to end the myth that only mousey women are hit (they probably not hit actually as do what told without it!)

I think aspies are esp vulnerable to being hit by a spouse as we tend to be more annoying and we tend to have trouble telling if we are in the wrong or if the other person is and weve been 'disciplined' all our lives as weve been getting things wrong since before we can remember so it seems very natural to be displeasing people (not a situation that shocks us into leaving).

And its not NTs or psychopaths seeking out victims as 2 men who hit me had ASD.

I wish there was more services available to help violent spouses not be violent.

Of course it isn't OK. Take it from me, humans can be a vicious species; that said, having watched my parents go down that road I'm willing to confront the reasoning behind it should this ever happen to me. As lotusblossom pointed out I might annoy the ladies in my life as a function of my biological programming, but we're non-violent people; instead of fighting, anyone who thinks like me moves past such inadequacies eventually. Another thing to keep in mind is that a dose of common sense can really help aggressive people confront and improve the consequences of those tendencies, if anything, it's something you should try to help them overcome.

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It is not okay. It is not socially acceptable (as far as I know). However, you are not alone in beating physically abused by your ex-girlfriend. I know of other men whose partners get angry and hit them. A lot of guys are ashamed to talk about it. I'm sorry that happened to you. I hope you find the courage to risk loving again.

Sadomasochism is not actually abuse. For people who enjoy it, it is pleasure. If you do not like it, than I guess it is abuse. I don't even think sadomasochism is illegal. Some people like it rough. However, I'm sure if you break a jaw, or flatten someones face, you will probably go to prison. Unless you're a police officer.

It saddens me how many women I know who joke about stuff like this or who have hit their boyfriends. I remember a Jezebel.article about it and it disgusted me how casual they were about being abusive spouses (as if feeling bad about it later redeems you). I don't care how bad you feel about flying off the handle - you are responsible for your actions. Ladies, your supposed guilt means f**k all if you don't make the right steps to improve.

Worse is that some women I know blame their boyfriends for their own instability and even claim that HE is abusing her. Sorry, but people like that need to sort themselves out before going into a relationship.

seems quite a bit think its ok or means nothing cause the guy is bigger then the woman therefore she can't really hurt him. cause you know women are incapable of hurting other humans, they just so weak. and no amount of hitting or using objects could they hurt a guy. :'( so its ok for them to hit their guys.

so if there's a tiny guy with no muscle then he couldn't hurt a woman so can he hit her now.

I am not that strong. and women can hurt me. especially cause I won't hit back or defend myself unless it becomes life threatening. so when my mom hits me its ok cause it doesn't hurt as bad as if my friend hit me?

this logic is stupid. should be bad to hit anyone even if you hitting them won't hurt them.
it can cause emotional and mental scars. perhaps this is why I am afraid of being hit by women when i am near them and they yell. cause in the pat I've been hit by mad women..

but part of me also feels its ok :"(