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04 Mar 2007, 8:43 pm

The only thing that got me through high school in one piece was layers of books held up against my chest area. :lol:



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04 Mar 2007, 9:07 pm

Do you know how much trouble you can get in for sexual harrassment? Trust me, they're big consequences. I've incurred them before. Alex what are you thinking? And besides, these are freshmen and sophomore girls, their chest areas might not be worth squeezing yet, maybe, maybe not. :lol:



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04 Mar 2007, 9:19 pm

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I didn't mean surveillance. Since they took his picture, I thought that if they did it again he could do it right back. But you're right, it could go sour. Better not.

If they follow him, I don't see why he couldn't follow them - once.

The buddy system is good, I hadn't thought of that.


Agreed. No camera. I do not want to be called into the vice principal's office again because one of their lot is accusing me of sexual harassment.

Maybe they think I can protect them in a way? Because of my Aspieness, it is not true.


tell them to leave you alone and accuse them of harassing you. They are harassing you, not sexually, but still.


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04 Mar 2007, 9:21 pm

by the way, while this may be off topic, i think it would be a good idea not to let your friends use your computer without logging out of wrongplanet first. not that i have any experience in the area.....


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04 Mar 2007, 9:40 pm

GoatOnFire wrote:
Do you know how much trouble you can get in for sexual harrassment? Trust me, they're big consequences. I've incurred them before.


Oh I didn't mean one of their lot is accusing me of harassment now, just another girl did indeed accuse me of harassment before this mess.



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04 Mar 2007, 9:41 pm

AnonymousAnonymous wrote:
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Do you know how much trouble you can get in for sexual harrassment? Trust me, they're big consequences. I've incurred them before.


Oh I didn't mean one of their lot is accusing me of harassment now, just another girl did indeed accuse me of harassment before this mess.


oh so they still may like you?


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04 Mar 2007, 9:42 pm

alex wrote:
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Claradoon wrote:
I didn't mean surveillance. Since they took his picture, I thought that if they did it again he could do it right back. But you're right, it could go sour. Better not.

If they follow him, I don't see why he couldn't follow them - once.

The buddy system is good, I hadn't thought of that.


Agreed. No camera. I do not want to be called into the vice principal's office again because one of their lot is accusing me of sexual harassment.

Maybe they think I can protect them in a way? Because of my Aspieness, it is not true.


tell them to leave you alone and accuse them of harassing you. They are harassing you, not sexually, but still.


Come to think of it, they don't actually say anything to me but still.
If I tell them to leave me alone, they'll say I'm a paranoid freak who's anti-social & all that good BS.



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04 Mar 2007, 9:44 pm

alex wrote:
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GoatOnFire wrote:
Do you know how much trouble you can get in for sexual harrassment? Trust me, they're big consequences. I've incurred them before.


Oh I didn't mean one of their lot is accusing me of harassment now, just another girl did indeed accuse me of harassment before this mess.


oh so they still may like you?


True but the HS I go to is not a very forgiving school so maybe this is a big revenge thing?



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04 Mar 2007, 9:46 pm

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by the way, while this may be off topic, i think it would be a good idea not to let your friends use your computer without logging out of wrongplanet first. not that i have any experience in the area.....


I always log on WP from a school computer but mostly on weekends from home or a library. Thanks for the tip anyway.



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04 Mar 2007, 10:13 pm

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Anon, seriously, I think one of them likes you.

Rarely to girls go to such extended effort unless they like you. Is it possible that they would go to such lengths just to tease/mess with you? Yes, but it's not probable.

Next time, goof with the one following you -- duck behind something, then jump out in front of her and say "Oh! I didn't me to startle you." Then give her a big, mischeivous smile. Then calmly walk off the opposite direction and don't look back.

Seriously, guy. Take control of the situation humorously. If they ARE messing with you, it will stop being so much fun if they know you'll "retaliate" rather than allowing yourself to be play-stalked like prey. AND, if one of them DOES like you, as I suspect, then you'll be taking it to the next level, and the little group will be THRILLED. LOL!

One thing you boys all need to remember is that it's VERY possible to be sort of...an odd dude...and still have a girl (or several) secretly have a crush on you. Once a girl has decided she likes you, you could have three eyeballs and say nothing but "Gerk!" and she'd find a way to not only justify it but to convince all her friends that it's absolutely brilliant of you. :)

Trust your friend, the old babe, DD.


Except that they are taking it in turns, the way AnonymousAnonymous narrates it, more suggestive of teasing than budding romance. Three eyeballs would be interesting, though I do not know how attractive girls would find it. "Gerk!" might be stimulating if it translated to something really profound, or maybe highly romantic in whatever tongue the triophthalmoi or triocculi speak, and the girl was actually fluent in the alien dialect, as well as in Spanish. I have been manipulated by a girl before. At least more recent infatuations have not prevented me continuing to be friends. Do you think that people might have been having "crushes" (infatuations) upon me without my realising it? I am older than AnonymousAnonymous, but still single.


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04 Mar 2007, 10:16 pm

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I agree with DD actually, as to my embarrassment, I have behaved this way and I am not NT, and it was DEFINITELY because I liked the man, but had no idea how to do anything about this. I am surprised, that as NTs, one of them has not simply come out and said something, or given a note. I have an excuse because I am nervous of people and have no idea about flirting etc, what excuse do they have?


Neurotypicals are not always confident Graelwyn. How are you at the moment?


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04 Mar 2007, 10:27 pm

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Grael,

What those girls have is a serious case of...adolescence! Hahahaha! :-)

No, I'm not laughing at you or our teenage friends. Just the opposite. I'm remembering with some amused embarassment at my own follies that being a teen, NT or AS, and trying to figure out how to interact with others -- much less flirt or express romantic interest! -- is always a challenge. And EVERYONE s a bit of dork about it when they are first learning about it, don't be surprised by the goofy things people do. :lol:

Heck, I've got MUCH more experience in that arena than most of you on this thread, but let us all do remember: if romance/love and the possibility of it weren't a pretty steep, exciting, nerve-wracking, difficult, beautiful, agonizing, ridiculous, so-totally-worth-it hill to climb, then most of what Shakespeare and every other amazing author in history has would be moot.

I don't have all the answers either (as per the Adult Forum, In Love with Aspie thread), but I know this: It's all good. :-)

DD


How do you let someone know (tactfully) that you are interested in them romantically? At the moment I am still trying to get over my obsessive feelings for a friend of mine who is not only kind, intelligent and mature, but also very attractive, but who already has a boyfriend, making it wrong for me to even fantasise about her, so it will probably be a long while before I get to put any of your advice into practice, but GroovyDruid's advice (generally very good on a range of issues) on the art of flirtation seemed to be more directed towards approaching a girl who is a stranger at a dance/night-club or something. Not really sure if that's my scene, besides I believe that you should get to know someone really well as a friend before making any romantic overtures.


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04 Mar 2007, 10:31 pm

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Alex????

That can't possibly have been the real Alex.

Dangerous idea, whoever said that about the chest-area touching.

DD


What are you referring to? I did not see any post resembling this. And yes, very ill-conceived idea whoever had it.


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04 Mar 2007, 10:33 pm

alex wrote:
by the way, while this may be off topic, i think it would be a good idea not to let your friends use your computer without logging out of wrongplanet first. not that i have any experience in the area.....


Was that what happened, leading to the post that quite understandably and rightly shocked Dog Dancer? Surely not our great Administrator?


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04 Mar 2007, 10:38 pm

Oh my goodness, that's so funny! Do you think so? Have a faux-Alex in our midst?



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04 Mar 2007, 10:40 pm

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Oh my goodness, that's so funny! Do you think so? Have a faux-Alex in our midst?


No!! !! !! !!


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