I sometimes want a certain hair color. wrong?

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I actually came up with a theory that people have a natural affinity for blonde hair because there are more frequent examples of symbolism that can be tied to nature, yellow flowers are (IIRC) the second most common flower type (after white)... in addition to the sun. A field full of yellow flowers does a lot of invoke a strong connection with the earth, and when the sun hits it, the entire field is consumed in a yellow glow...I think this is something that blond hair reminds us of... a women's beauty really thrives in a poets heart when they can tie her appearance to nature. This is why I think red-heads are up there also, because of flowers! Although for blondes, I think they thrive because there are more flowers or plants that are yellow, yellow is also the color of honey, which is something that is frequently used symbolically.

Your preferences are none of our business. You can restrict yourself to certain physical attributes if you want to. There's nothing really wrong with that.

Depending on what you want to do, however, certain preferences might be counterproductive. I acquired an intense attraction to caucasian women with albinism. FINDING a woman with albinism isn't necessarily the biggest problem. Will she find me attractive as well? Does she have emotional issues I can't live with? I mean, those are questions you have to resolve no matter who you date. If your preferences are so narrow that you'd only date someone if she has albinism, the odds of finding someone you could live with are impossibly slim.

Only dating blondes might be more reasonable than only dating albinism, but you might be artificially narrowing your chances at a good, quality relationship.

Also, blonde hair has a history of being more attractive for many than other hair colors. You might be putting yourself at a disadvantage if you're dating someone that more jerks out there are willing to compete fiercely for. For me, having to "compete" for a woman's attention is not worth it. Had bad experience(s) with that?not doing it again (it's not that guys competing for a girl is a bad thing?I just don't want to be with a girl who encourages that. I need the stability of a LTR. If I have to worry that a girl might be with another guy in the blink of an eye, I'm not going to hang around very long).

What I'd suggest is focus on a broader number of features you consider attractive and allow for slightly more generous flexibility without lowering your standards. Make something like hair/eye color/body type more like icing on the cake rather than an inflexible requirement. The exception would be is if someone appears the way they do because of character traits. I don't have a problem with chunky or overweight women. I DO, however, want to know WHY they became overweight and/or choose to stay that way. Glands? Slow metabolism/physically unable to make changes and survive? Fine. Laziness? Chronic untreated depression? Sense of entitlement to rich/high calorie food? Eating disorder driven by underlying emotional factors, or using food as a coping mechanism? Nope?you have deep seated issues that I'd be expected to deal with as a potential love interest. I'm looking for a partner, not a ball-and-chain. Not to say "attractive" people don't have character flaws, but I'm less likely to find as many deal breakers there because of how closely I tend to associate emotional issues with eating habits.

And for the record, I don't get a free pass, either. Any women who looks at me will see a slightly overweight, out-of-shape, bald, unshaved slug. If there are any issues a woman might have with that, I have to accept that she'll reject me, and I can't blame her for that.

Also worth mention is that although polls have generally shown some preference by males for blonde hair it only took the question so far.

In a very recent study/poll the results show that while there still is s preference for blonde hair in dating that the reverse is true with men showing a preference for brunettes in marriage.

But really it is all subjective and not that significant a preference to begin with. A poll stating there is preference for blonde hair might and if I remember correctly was only 55% of men. So really its close to 50/50.

I myself could not say I have a preference. The women I dated were half one and half the other. Each was attractive to me in an unique way. The woman I married is blonde but it wasn't the hair color, but her personality that attracted me.

I do think, at least in American media that you find a tendency for brunettes get shorted and blonde is more promoted.

Why do you keep openings these topics?

me?

There's nothing wrong with it, but it limits your dating pool.

Your best bet is Scandinavia, though there are plenty of women in other countries with natural blonde hair.

Hair color tells me absolutely nothing about a person.

If personalities were visible, maybe I'd actually care.

I can't pick, so I will take them all.